None of us came to alanon because we are well. That goes for me as much as anyone else here or in the rooms of alanon around the world. I have asked that you address me here on the main board in the spirit of actual recovery and because i know all too well from experience that emotional and mental manipulation thrives in secret. Listen well: I'm not interested in playing with you. If you have anything to say to me or any questions/issues to do with recovery, this is the best place to bring them. I have told you that I am deleting any messages you send me without bothering to read them. So here you go. Bring your issues out here and let the fellowship guide you where I can't.