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We got are oil changes and i got the car washed as well. Then he wanted to go to his friends house that he seems to want to go to alot. Well he didn't want to take his car so I rode with him because I still don't want him take off with my car. Well I got home and he went to the store and I didn't relize that is he wanted me to go get him. So he got in the car and started being mean and all the way to his friends he was mean. Then I was waiting in the car and decided to go into the house so i knock and then went in. well they must of been talking that they didn't want for me to her because they stop when i came in. I left a left them again in the house talking. well when he came out he told me why didn't i knock and i said i did he said his friend didn't like i just walked in but my husband was already in the house. I might be wrong but what is the big deal my husband is all ready in there. so i have said that i am not planning on going back and i hope i can stick to it. i don't really don't know why he is going so much. i felt very uncomfotble. so it is time for a boundary to be put in place that i wouldn't go there. it is going to be hard.
the next thing he was nasty all the way home. so when i got out of my car i ran in the house to get my computer and get the heck out of there. i left about 15 ealier. he called me and ask why didn't i tell him i was leaving. I waited for my girlfriend to come so we could go to the face to face.
the before the meeting started he called me and told me that he told his son he would drive him some where and did i want to come. he wanted to know when the meeting was over and i told him so time. then he was like wow that is a long meeting. i told him that there alot of beginer. so i told him that he should go without me which was hard to do. but my girlfriend helped me by going to diner with me. When i got home from diner he was home.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
You know in your heart what he was doin there. Be smart by thinking of yourself. If he wants to go to jail for his actions let him. I don't want to see anything happen to you.
I know it is hard sometimes to say no to our hubbys. Honestly ny you must think of yourself first in this situation.
And try not to let him use your car it he gets caught with something in your car you can loose it, and that would be horrible for you.
This is tough, because you know what he is doing there, and I know you don't want him driving after leaving there. Clearly, he doesn't want to be driving either. But he is involving you in illegal activity.
Whenever he asks, come here or go to a f2f meeting or call someone. Don't go to jail with him.
