The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I found this in the "How Al-Anon Works" book. I feel so selfish feeling jealous over the time he spends between mettings and phone calls. And here's another dysfunction feeling I have, I feel worried he will meet an AA woman who has AA in common with him. I know he loves me and is the most dedicated man, but I still feel threatened.
I try to do my own thing and let him take care of himself. I try to support but not get too involved.
Does anyone else feel this way? If so, when will it go away? Am I co-dependent?
While my story is different from yours, I have found that attending Alanon F2F (face to face) meetings to help me deal with my anxiety and insecurities . In Alanon the focus is on me and how I deal with life's challenges. Growing up in the disease and marrying into it has skewed my look at life. Learning that I had no control over any people, places or things has calmed me. No matter what your RAH does or doesn't do you have no control but you do control your reactions to him. Living with Alcoholism changes our ways we deal with life. We go crazy trying to figure them out. Alanon is your program and it focuses on making you find happiness. It really works if you work it. It has saved me from driving myself crazy thinking that I had control over others. Getting busy in your own program leaves you little time to worry about others..
Keep coming back to this site and consider going to F2F meetings. It has changed my life...
To answer your question, You have been affected by the disease of alcoholism and will benefit from a program of recovery of your own. Alanon face to face meetings will help . Please check them out
