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Our 28 year old son is a alcoholic and drug addict. His wife had a baby a little over a year ago and he stopped all of his bad ugly habits. He was in a accident and got put on Tramadol, and you can guess the rest of the story. He has been drinking again and his personality is ugly. We talked to him about the pain pills and says they are giving by dr. He is over taking then and I am not sure what to do know I watch there daughter 3 days a week so they can work. I feel like I need to walk away and let him figure it out. My sponsor passed away and haven't got a new one guess its time to find one.
I think it is a better choice than others but he took a months worth in a 4 days so my heart is saying he is using them to get High, or at least to numb the pain. Its is his mental state is the issue. He is a ugly mean drunk and he has been drinking lately. Got to remember the 3 C's.
(((ghen))) - sending you all prayers and positive thoughts. My son relapsed last year, and my HP and my sponsor suggested I try to be of service to my future DIL and my GrandSon. So - I reached out to her on a regular basis and let him do his thing. He had no real interest in talking to me or his father while active, and quite frankly - I felt the same way. Of course, during his active phase, they got pregnant again, so we now have 2 grand-sons. They are a blessing and my son got sober again. I am actually quite proud as he found his way back to recovery without a nudge from us or the judge. Progress - not perfection.
I did manage to get his baby momma to a few Al-Anon meetings and got her all set up with literature. She went for a short while and hasn't been for a long while. I invite here about once a month and she's been busy - which I do understand. She knows there is no judgement if she goes/does not go and she knows where to find here should she want it.
I would encourage you to seek out another sponsor - they are a godsend in times of chaos for me. Also, double/triple up on meetings always helps me when I feel like things are out of control around me. Both center me back to focusing on what is mine and what I can/should do vs. not do...
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
