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As I sit here at 2:30 in the morning with tears in my eyes listening to the last sounds and breaths of my mother in law and it is breaking my heart...but I realize how blessed I am to be here with her and helping her to move on. There is no other feeling like it in the world. A feeling of sadness, a feeling of joy, a feeling of a end and a new beginning for her. I have taken her under my wing since Feb 3rd 2016 when she moved in with me and my husband (AH). It has been a rocky road..but not the whole time...we had some laughter and tears together and after 14 yrs I truly got to know this woman and am grateful for that. 

I title this "Love of the Program" , because I know that 9 months ago I would never have been able to take this on. I owe my gratitude to MIP and all the people that have shared with me and heard my shares. The people who helped me keep my chin up during any storm. This program has given me strength I never knew I had. Again I am truly grateful. This program has put me thru tears and happiness...I am truly grateful. 

The storm for the last 2 plus weeks have been exhausting...but I know this too shall pass and I can go back to my life. While I took care of her, I put the monitor in the garage and started to create my new groom shop. I am on hold now but will continue soon. Even she had a part in it...4 of the hospice nurses will be bringing me their dogs...how amazing is that...she just had to take care of me one more time..Ha!....

Anyway...I want you all of you and this program to know how much I love you and how grateful I am to be here as much as I can be. No matter what happens in my life I will always remain and Al Anoner. God help everyone! Ha you are stuck with me.

Debra



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unbroken13


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And less than an hour later and she is gone. 



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What an amazing experience you have been given and have been willing to share.

My sister, cousin, and I spent the last weeks at my grandmother's side and were with her when she passed away. It is an experience I will forever treasure and yet something I hope not to repeat. The love of this moment will not diminish and your post has truly brought it home again.

Thank you! I believe I needed this today.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I pray that you find the same comfort as I did when I experienced such a gift, because it forever changed me and made me no longer fear death.

Again, thank you!

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hotrod


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((Debra)) What tremendous compassion and love !! Thank you for bringing it to MIP. I have shared that journey with loved ones and know of which you speak.
I am sorry for your loss and will hold you and your family in my prayers.



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I'm sorry for your loss. What beautiful thoughts you had in your heart and mind as she was passing. Thank you for this inspiring share!
(((Unbroken)))

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I am sorry for your loss Debra, you are a strong and
good lady. I was thinking about you wondering how
you were.

I am glad you have a new groom business, i remember
You were going to school.

Sending you and your hubby healing hugs, glad you
Could be with your MIL to the end.

((((((( unbroken )))))))


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Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Your words brought me such a feeling of strength and 'knowing', even though I am nowhere close to having the same 'experience' of which you shared. That I still received a gift such as this is a true testament to the miracles of this program.

I am very sorry for your loss, and I wish you peace and healing in your time of grief.

Hugs,
Cyndi

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(((Debra))) - I've been out of town and am in catch up mode. Huge (((Hugs))) to you and I am so sorry for your loss. I remember when you first came here and you were so thirsty for 'better'. You are a true testament to how the program works for those who want peace, serenity and recovery.

What a great and powerful share - thank you for writing out the gifts you feel you've gotten from the program. You are a gift to me, and I wish you, AH and all others peace as you grieve your MIL. May her new chapter be awesome and she rest in peace.

'See ya soon'!!!

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