The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Well I finally did it and went back to a ftf meeting! I actually enjoyed the experience very much and felt as if I was in the right place...finally! It has been a long and arduous process to get back to the rooms and I am very glad I made the effort. I sincerely hope to continue meetings and to learn from my fellow members in so many ways.
One thing that struck me today is that I have a lot more work to do. I thought I was further along than I actually am, because today's readings really led me to see things I need to work on for myself. It is so odd that one meeting can open your eyes so much. It is time to really concentrate on me and my issues.
I did make a pretty big mistake after the meeting and handled something poorly, so I called my RAH and told him immediately. Because my mind could not fathom a solution, I asked him for a suggestion and he gladly told me a perfect way to resolve my issue. It seems I have forgotten that no is a complete sentence and that "I don't want to discuss it" is perfectly ok! So, in the future, I will do better and will stay on task and not be led into uncomfortable situations which I can easily prevent by remembering "not my monkey, not my circus" and keeping my thoughts and my comments to myself.
Good for you, usually at meetings i hear what i
Need to hear or get stuff re enforced. I love to
Just listen. I love to see good healthy changes
In people as they work the program.
Its all a process being part of a group do your
Part setup, take down, greet newcomers, give
Someone a hug.
I was so raw for a long time and i just left shortly
Afterward. Now i just start putting things away and
I am the librarian and i go to business mtgs.
I think that is great you can call you ah and
Ask him questions like that :)
Great share doingmybest. Being an imperfect human, I have found that as long as I live I will need to keep learning how to live so I will continue to keep coming back.
DMB - so late to this thread but so very glad that you found what you needed at the meeting(s) you attended! I am hopeful that you are continuing to go and grow - I love my meetings and my home group and am so grateful to have found this program. Your post is a great reminder for me as to why I keep going!!
Yay for you!!! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
