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I have a customer/friend who is an alcoholic. She's never told me, her boss did (she went into rehab). I do not know if she knows I know. Yesterday at lunch, to my shock, she had 2 drinks! What can I do to help her? I was so shocked, I did nothing.
Hello Ava Welcome. Alcoholism is a chronic , progressive disease over which we are powerless. Denial of reality is a symptom of the disease that many alcoholic use in order to continue to drink. Your friends behavior, unfortunately is not unusual.
Since we are powerless over the disease, it is important to know how to interact with it in order to maintain our own sanity and peace of mind. Alanon is the program that has been established to help friends and family of alcoholics. Face to face meetings are held in most communities and the hot line number is in the white pages. Keep coming back
Hi Ava~Alanon is the only thing I know of to cope with alcoholics. I live with an alcoholic spouse and have learned that I can be happy and content most of the time, in spite of my spouse's behavior. Your intentions are good, but only the drinker can change if she wants to, Lyne
I too welcome you to MIP Ava.....those above me have stated all I can think of - your friend must want recovery to have success in recovery. There is nothing you can do or say to change her actions. Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
What do I do indeed? The response I got was Keep coming back and I did. Another response was "If you keep and open mind...you will find help" and of course those two suggestions (only suggestions) put together obviously worked for me. Take this one day at a time and follow the suggestions of those who came before you and hold on to your commitment, patience and the other attributes which will bring on the miracle. Stay very close to your Higher Power and when you have a win ask HP "Okay what next"?
