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Happy Mother's Day to one and all - including all the male members who have had to be mothers at times.
As most of you know, I have two sons. I expect that I won't hear from either of them today. I am sad for that, but it is what it is. The disease is alive and well in my neck of the woods, so am asking for prayers and positive thoughts. My 2nd born called yesterday asking me to take him to cash his check and grocery shopping. I carved time out for this, and it did not go well. He was dirty, had dirty clothes and had not slept for days. He was defiant, disrespectful and angry. His disease is in control and I am powerless. So, maybe I am more than sad - still processing.
I am hating this disease the bonds us today. With a strong passion and a bunch of anger, I am collecting myself and headed to a meeting in a bit. My sponsor will be there and my adopted family will help me through this. I just wish it didn't have to be so hard to love someone with this disease. I am asking for you all to lift my son up in prayer and send some positive MoJo my way - I truly need it today.
(((Hugs))) to all and may you have peace, joy and love - just for today.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Same to you I A H! I am not a mother but I am fortunate to have one. She is about 900 miles away but I can honestly say that I really want to talk to her more than before. I really love her but because she called me a loser once it is hard to feel the old feelings. I am definitely going to call her. Thanks for the post. Have a great day whatever happens.
((Hugs)) IAH I too have a difficult day ahead. Positive thoughts and prayers on the way for all.
Remember the alanon principle" We are as happy as we make up our minds to be " I too will make a meetings and connect with my recovery family .
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Keeping my expectations low today. Its interesting how a day designated to honour mothers can be loaded with such emotion. Throw in facebook with everyone posting all of their lovely pictures and gifts and it can really be a tough day for those who have lost their Mother, don't have a relationship with their mother or have lost a child or have strained relationships with them. To all of the Moms of MIP whatever your situation is I am sending you warm wishes for a peaceful day.
Ive never been a mother but niece and nephew consider me one as my sis died when they were young. I had a horrible mother and the mother in laws werent so hot either. Im a mother to my cat, i guess that counts. prayers and hugs to all the Mothers on the board.
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(((((IAH))))) you are so loving and so being loved. Yes I know that you and other mothers would like to have that love returned by others more special thru birth and then like you suggest...It is what It is...Ho`omaika`i....blessings from around the planet and may your unconditional love and courage and strength be returned to you...Mahalo for the love you have given from your heart.
Thank you to one and all. I truly love my HP and how he works in my life.....after I wrote this, I began that 'stinking thinking' of maybe I won't go to a meeting; I'm too upset, too raw, too ....
So - I turned on the TV and it being Sunday, I typically watch Joel Osteen - love the messages. Anyways, I normally watch it @ 9am and it was only 7:30am. So - the last TV channel I was watching last night had ... Joel Osteen on @ 7:30am. The message was today was, "It's All Good" and he talked about trusting God and knowing that nothing happens on accident or by mistake. He suggests that the difficult times are for us to learn and grow and we have to have these moments to get to the next miracle.
So spot on. I watched it and then did some praying/meditating/gratitude for the message and collected myself and went to my F2F meeting. It too was about obsessing on the negative and stinking thinking. I found peace for my mind, which shows me that when I do the next right thing, more is revealed.
Hugs to all who are having a difficult day. I am beyond words grateful that I have my family here and my F2F meeting to lift me up when I am falling.
(((Betty))) - huge hugs and positive thoughts your way! May your day go fast and be uneventful (my prayer for mine today as well). Know that the service and shares you post here are so giving, helpful and loving - I'd not be where I am without you and those others who spend time here and share ESH. Love to you today and always!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great photo - thanks for sharing Pinkchip! She and you both look very happy!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hello everyone! My plan was to keep my expectations low. I had a few moments where I was feeling low, because of stinking thinking, but I got back on track. I decided to focus on all that is good, and not give the negative any more of my time.
Happy Day after Mother's Day to all of you, and great big hugs to all who may be hurting.
I am glad it's behind us and that we work a program that let's us 'do' one day at a time. I got a text message from my active son, and nothing from the sober son. No cards, no calls, no meal, etc. Makes me truly hate this disease and the spread it has on families. I took a long nap, and watched some TV last night - a restful day...
I am smart enough to avoid Facebook so did not go until today. I am grateful that today I was able to celebrate and enjoy other's photos without envy, sadness or anger. It truly is what it is and I can not do anything about it but have hope it will get better. I hope everyone had a blessed day and know that I am glad you all are here!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great minds think and do alike - eh? wink....wink....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
