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Last few days or so ,my a/sister has been ignoring me ,if I ask her something she keeps walking then when I tell her I need to ask her something concerning finances ,bills etc...she turns at me with a acowl on her face ,she stays in her bedroom,my x/bf came to visit and you couldn't have poured sugar on her and it melt fast as that,all her evil ways are pointed at me and I mean evil,,,she still owes me her part which is a small 200 a mth and that includes everything ,my bills have gone up a good bit,she washes a lot and watches tv 24/7 ,she says tv is her sanity,anyway this being ignored and scowl face at me, she walks over to neighbors and visits and laughs and cuts up with them then comes back over here and starts right back same ole crap I've asked her what's wrong,and she more or less hisses at me,,,,,,she said she detoxxed herself and I was detrimental to her detoxing ,and I told her that I was not qaulified to do that and I have t a clue as to what to do......anybody know or can give me some good perspective as to what's going on here in my home,she also said that we were so different, I so agreed,I'm just wanting my peace and harmony back in my home where she keeps it tore up here,how do I handle this situation and get my money from her ,cause she is an expense.......hugs and thanks for letting me vent....much needed venting to.....lu



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Dear LU , It certainly sounds as if your sister is scowling and not talking to you in an effort to intimidate you,so as you will not ask for the money that she owes. Staying detached from her mood and writing out a budget is probably a healthy action to take. Once the budget has been established,you could ask for a conference with her, regardless of an angry face. Set up a  payment plan with real  consequences and then take care of yourself. I know living with someone who is angry all the time is not easy , so I would get to meetings shopping go out with friends and take care myself .

Start the day with an alanon reading, come here and share, review the alanon slogans as this will help you to kind yourself once again . 

Positive thoughts on the way 



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Ty Betty and that I shall do getting out and enjoying the day,yes she is being intimidating at her best,stomping through my house closing doors hard ,ignoring me,etc....all the typical behaviours of an addict,I just insisted on her to give me her room and board money and she just said it wasn't on there yet,her money comes on a card.

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Ok So you took an action Now Do not engage with her-- simply ask what date she expects it each month and then state the date you need it. Enjoy your day. That is most important



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Ty Betty,I asked her for her part of rent and she refuses to pay me said she owed for a router she never returned from her last house she lived in and that they took all her money out of account,I've been doing some crying,cause my bills have gone up higher than usual doubled actually and I don't know why that is. My bills never been so high she said she had nothing to do with that.so she got me in a hard spot that I've never been in ,and I do not comprehend what she thinks she's doing,she done this one time before by saying that some business took all her money out of her account and I never got my money that mth either but I was able to manage ,this time it's diff,I just don't know what I'm gonna do to get by,everything's doubled electric,water,wifi,etc.and I know she washes and dries everyday and I have saw where she left my dryer running all day with just a bra in it.my thinking is she wants me to lose,lose what I've got and do without,something just Ai t right.

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A really bad mth for me,with everything being so high and all I can do is worry myself to death over it.cause this is serious,she going on like she don't care

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Lu can you qualify for any assistance?

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I get assistance now ,but with her living here it makes things higher,as in expenses are lots higher,she trying to blackmail me ,but I'm not taking it I don't have to,so she has agreed to get me my money by the end of day or tomorrow,cause she gots lots going on in her back ground she don't know that I don't know about it but I haven't even threatened her with it she just gets scared and gets to thinking I'm gonna turn her in for something .lol.i don't know anything,myob,I mind my own bus.but let her think what she wants as long as I get my money.then to work on getting her outta here

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This sounds like a stressful situation.   Your sister sounds like she's pressuring you to do without the money from her, which obviously is a bad plan.  I wonder if you could get a different roommate, a more reliable one, if your sister moved out.  I know getting her to move out would be a whole different problem.  But right now your finances are at the mercy of a dysfunctional addict and that is a highly stressful way to live.  Take good care of yourself!



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So true mattie,I just want my money then to get her out of my home that in itself by getting her out is gonna be another huge problem.

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