Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Bianca75 · Member

Brand new to this

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Bianca I am sorry that you are experiencing the devastating effects of living with the the disease of alcoholism. I am glad that you found us and reached out. You are not alone.

Alcoholism is a dreadful, chronic, progressive disease that can be arrested but never cured. It effects the entire family and Alanon is a remarkable recovery program set up to help family members learn how to live their lives in a healthy fashion . Face to face meetings are here held in most communities and the hot line number is in the white pages. Since we are powerless over this disease the best we can do is find support for ourselves as we attempt to live our lives with courage, serenity and wisdom. Please search out meetings and attend.

Bianca75 · Member

The numbers to Al-anon in our local phone book are no good. Tried calling several times. I'm hoping to call around today and find someone who can tell me how to contact them. I would love to go asap if I could figure out how.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Generally there is a list too in local
Newspapers.

Good luck and welcome

(((((( bianca ))))

Bianca75 · Member

Thank you. I just sent an email requesting info. I've seen the schedule but there is conflicting information so hopefully I'll get some feedback soon. If not, I guess I'll just go and hope I've got the right address.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

((Bianca)) We also hold on- line meetings here in the chat room 2xs a day Here is the schedule

Al-Anon Family Group
Meeting/Chat Room

Meetings
9 AM EST Mon-Fri
9 PM EST Mon-Sat
10 AM EST Sat & Sun
7 PM EST Sunday

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Bianca75 · Member

Thank you!

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Good luck Bianca and welcome to the family...we are here with you cause we know what its like and how it does what it does. Believe it...getting into this program and working it will change your life for the BETTER. Keep coming back. ((((hugs)))) smile

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you for sharing Bianca and yes please keep coming back a lot of weight will be lifted from you . Hugs lu

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm late to the welcome party, but wanted to welcome you to MIP Bianca - my hope is that you have found some peace and hope since you first posted!!

Bella0104 · Member

OH my, my heart goes to you. I did have a similar situation about eight years ago. But I didn't make the right choice. So, instead of advice, I will send you my prayers.

Doves · Veteran Member

I could have written what you wrote except my son (17, nearly 18 years old) hasn't been officially diagnosed as he refuses to go anywhere that could. I know your pain. It is the most heart wrenching horrible pain I've ever felt and I have dealt with other alcoholics before and have experienced losing parents to death etc but there is no pain that comes close to watching your child transform into a complete monster stranger before your eyes. And I think it is hard for us as parents to deal with it because they are our child, we've raised them, we've been there over the years to fix what's broken but we can't fix this and that is so maddening. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene