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Welp... I Haven't Spilled any Stain/Gloss So Far today so I Guess I'm Grateful for that ;) 4th Coat On and Complete :)
Its been a Tough Morning/afternoon... Strange how Fast things can Turn around in about an hour Span of a Day...
I Friend I Went to School With Showed up at my Shop today, We Talk on Social Media but only once in awhile, we both tend to stay Rather Busy in Life... but we was always Good Buddies..(I have Always been Better at Being one of the Guys). We Enjoy the Same Humor and being from a Small Town Our Family's all know each other... Well I thought (Maybe Hoped) he was Stopping by to Show me his Car he just Got... We are all Dodge Drivers ;) So I Come out Bouncing And So Happy to See him, he gets out of the Car, tears on the surface... I Look at Him and Quickly ask if he is Ok, First words out of his Mouth.. "Just Found Out Dad's Dying and he Don't have Long" Devastated... They Literally Just found out Yesterday, his Dad still does not Know because they think he had a Stroke and is Talking Only Jibberish, they did Find Blood Clots in both his Legs, and while doing tests they could, they also Found Cancer, All Over his Middle... They Can't do the MRI to check his head yet due to him being anxious/Shifty and such & his Heart Rate and Stuff... My Heart Just Broke.. I Couldn't think what to Do but Hug him & Cry with him... This Fellow has been in my Life Since I was In Kindergarten... He Said he Just had to Tell Someone and Unload because they Haven't Decide How to Tell the Rest of the Family Yet, and his First thought was Me...It Meant so Much to Me... but Hurt So Much at the Same Time... I Love his Dad & Share some Great Memories, but I Hate Feeling so Helpless at Times...
I know we All Live & then We Die, and I Know that When & If he at Least Comes thru Enough to make Sense of it all, I Know him Well Enough that he would Say... "I've Lived a Good Life, God will Take me when Ready!" because it was something he & I have Discussed Before.. But Just WOW... If you Could Please Send Prayers for this Family...
Right when He is Ready to Leave, a Cop Pulls in... Tells me I have to Go Back to Court Again, Because My Husband & I Sold two Junked Vans to a Scrapper (Trash Hauler), and He took one & Got it Running and Committed a Crime while it was Still In Our Name... Even tho we Signed over the Titles, Turned in the Plates & Put "Junked" on them...So Now... Yet Another Court Date for I & My Husband are Subpoenaed to Appear in Court ... GREAT...
Cop No Sooner Pulls Out of the Drive, My Mom Pulls in... In Tears... WHAT NOW? She has been Having Treatment Done on Her Face, due to Skin Cancer, and it Doesn't 'Look' Pretty... She is My Codependent Overly Loving & Sensitive Momma... She Just Can't Stand that she may Have Scars from this, (More Worried about What OTHER People Will Think of HER!)and I Tried to Explain to her, YOUR HERE, that is Nothing but Surface Dust... You will Heal give it Time... While Still Allowing her to Cry and Vent a Little... Finally Got her Calmed Down enough that She Decided She Could Now Go Home and Be OK For a Bit.... and I Swear I'm Afraid to Engage with Another Person, this ALL Happened within an HOUR of My Afternoon... I Need a Nap...
Time to Dig Into My Tool Box for Some Serenity and Sanity...
((Jozie)) You handled all these diffiuclt situations with perfect empathy and compassion. I salute you .
Mom and your long time friend were very wise in going to you for support. They knew that your heart was a warm and loving place.
Positive thoughts on the way regardinghe court case.
(((Jozie))) - I too am sending positive thoughts and prayers for you, your friend & his family and your momma.....what an hour you had! I am sorry for the stress and sadness this brings - knowing someone is preparing to leave our world is news that we understand, but still hard to accept.
My hope is you got your tool box out, found something to bring you peace and the day went uphill from there.
I laugh at how you talk about your mother. My mother had to have some spots removed from her face and she didn't care two cents about it. She looked strange for a bit but it healed up nicely. She's never been one who is too concerned with her looks so that was a good thing in my world.
Big hugs to you all!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
And I thought I was stressed. Wow. You've had a rough day. You should really take some time for yourself this evening. My head is spinning from just reading all that.
I'll pray for your friend and his dad, and your court case, and your mom.
I Got message from Friend and His Dad did Have a Stroke, however today his is Speaking Clearer... They Haven't Told him as of Yet about how bad the Cancer is, but Plan to today... So Please Continue to Lift them in Prayers... Most Grateful....
Iamhere... My Momma... She Lives 5 miles away, Retired and has Nothing to do with her time, and I Work From Home in my Office Next Door, so She is Here ALOT... Tho I Love My Time with her & She Truly is My Best Friend in the World... Her ISM's at Times Suffocate the Life out of Me... She is Not one to Get All Fancied up or Nothing, but she is Constantly Worried of What Others Think? I'm the Opposite...I Could give One Hoot what Others think of Me...But my ADad did a Number on her when they Married her Senior year of High School... And she has Never Seeked Recovery, at times I Swear I'm Dealing with a 12 yr old Child... and she is Only 65 this month... I'm Grateful I Have this time with her, but at times... Its Very Testing on my Serenity... :) However Very Glad to hear your mom's all healed up... Maybe I Can Share this Hope with her too ;)
After Work, I Made Food for the Family, and Just Sat Quietly on my Couch (in another room alone) and Just Breathed for awhile... it was a Nice 45 minute Pause, Spent some Time with My Son Before He drove back to college, and was in bed by 9:30 (That Never Happens) :) So Today I'm Well Rested, and Ready to see what HP Has In store for this Day... And Grateful to have another one to wake up too... I Could have Done without the Snow this Morning... But Grateful it has left and Brought Some Sunshine :)
So Glad your All Here... I've Missed Many of You Dearly...
Jozie, you handled that day/hour with so much grace and compassion. I'm praying for your friend's family as they share this news with his Dad. I lost my own Dad to cancer last year. As you were stating, about your friend's Dad, when we realized that the chemotherapy wasn't working, Dad said, "Well, if this last treatment doesn't work, I know I am finished with it. I'm at peace with where I am going". I'm praying that for that situation.
I'm so glad you that you sought, and found, some peace, and got some sleep last night. Sending you huge hugs, and pray that today is a better day for you.
(((Jozie))) - I will continue with prayers for all - and send positive vibes towards you all! Your mother sounds lovely!!! My mother was the oldest of 4 and her father was an alcoholic. However, his heaviest drinking was after she and 2 other daughters left home. He was lonely and turned to alcohol for company.
She has her own ism and lives 1,032 miles away. This is perfect for me as most of our interaction is on the phone ... I can eye-roll if needed and not be seen - ha!!
She has mellowed drastically with age and I am grateful. However she has followed his pattern completely and gets nasty drunk each night. I have to make sure I call before 3pm if I want to talk about important things.
Acceptance is such a gift. Before this program, I resented her for how she is in her senior years. I am now accepting of her choices, have my own boundaries and can love her exactly as she is - never knowing if 'this will be the last time I see her....'
Maturing in recovery has been good to me and for me. I can say that in spite of all the dysfunction in my FOO, I've learned to celebrate all that is different and enjoy that which I can!
Make it a great day - yay for you and your self care!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Devastated...
They Literally Just found out Yesterday, his Dad still does not Know because they think he had a Stroke and is Talking Only Jibberish, they did Find Blood Clots in both his Legs, and while doing tests they could, they also Found Cancer, All Over his Middle... They Can't do the MRI to check his head yet due to him being anxious/Shifty and such & his Heart Rate and Stuff... My Heart Just Broke.. I Couldn't think what to Do but Hug him & Cry with him... This Fellow has been in my Life Since I was In Kindergarten... He Said he Just had to Tell Someone and Unload because they Haven't Decide How to Tell the Rest of the Family Yet, and his First thought was Me...It Meant so Much to Me... but Hurt So Much at the Same Time... I Love his Dad & Share some Great Memories, but I Hate Feeling so Helpless at Times... 
