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Had a meltdown last night or rather 2am. I was cleaning yesterday and since i couldnt sleep,decided to check out some envies i found. One was chock full of old boyfriends ' poems and letters i had wrote. it also contained a cauntionary note i had written to my self eight months into the relationship with my XAH . It made me very upset, seeing how i had given my heart away to anyone who paid attention to me. I actually called and woke up my present boyfriend who is the dearest and doesnt mind this. I told him that maybe i was a fraud and so mixed up. Even at 3am, my guy is so smart. told me to throw away the papers, that men had hurt me but it was the past and i shouldnt dwell on it. That he felt trully loved by me and told me he would take me out tomorow. I felt he understood and fell blissfully asleep. I am alot stronger than before and am able to fend on my own.
I think it was good of you to look at that, but only because you were at a place where you knew someone has your back. Congrats to you and to boyfriend for working through this.
In fact, you might someday want to look back at your posts on here. I think you would be amazed to see the amount of growth. ((Alyce))
Great update Yarn Learn the lessons from the past, so we do not need to repeat them and then move on. Your BF sounds very wise and loving. I am happy for you
(((Alyce))) - I too applaud you! You found past items, you stumbled, you reached out and found support/relief - that's program in action. I am one who has a few people beyond the program that I could turn to in moments of crisis and find gratitude after that my ability to make trusted friends has been a result of this program...
Kudos to your guy for supporting you and reassuring you! Kudos to you for a good night's sleep after your dialogue!
I agree with Kenny - there will be a point when you stop back by and read this and will be amazed at your progress and growth.
Keep it up girl - it looks good on you!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Sounds like you have a great man. I think the most important thing in a relationship is being able to turn to each other for support. No one can be strong all the time. Its nice to have someone hold us up when we're feeling weak.
I think it was good of you to look at that, but only because you were at a place where you knew someone has your back. Congrats to you and to boyfriend for working through this.