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I told my addict bf he needed to go somewhere else to stay awhile until the drama. Settled down around here ,just way to much for me to deal with 2 addicts living in my home is a nightmare,he isn't likening it having to leave but so far he has been nice,I told him he could go to his old bosses house but he said NO,that he would go somewhere else,I can't afford him he do t have a job,and haven't had a full time or part time job since he come here back in oct,2015 ,he came right out of jail to here,he says he is going south of here out of this town of course,cops keep harnessing him,he has no DL,cops know that and harress him at every time he pulls out of my driveway,nerve wrecking to me,and I'm sure it is for him to,but he still ain't gone yet but he will ,he being quiet toward me,like I'm asking for a divorce and that's how he thinks like we are married and by me asking him to leave which I asked him in a nice voice ,that he can go be with someone else ,lol,how twisted his thinking is,but I don't even care ,cause this cycle has run its course time n time again,his choices are his his messes are his ,not mine ,it's gonna be a huge relief for me that I will no longer have to be concerned with needles being hid atop of my dresser mirror and out in my storage shed a bunch of used needles,never ever have I ever been in a relationship as sick as this one has been,but yet I feel bad ,bad for him,bad that I had to put him out,bad that I allowed him to come back in my home ,why should I feel bad or guilty,or anything,he is a man,I'm not responsible for him,as loud as I e screamed this out to him time n time again ,he never hears it,don't mind bumming at all,I'll stop here for now I'm sure I'll be posting more as I move through this process,,,,,,hugs,lu
LU Rememberr that drawing boundaries are for you own mental health. You are a kind and generous person and so you feel responsible for him. He is an adult and needs to feel responsible for himself. By refusing to allow him to stay with you with no D.L. or job this is a positive move for you both It sounds as if you have examined your motives regarding this situation and are comfortable with your actions. Good work
Thank you mrs Betty,yes it is a positive and he is taking it well,I told him there's just a lot going on here and he agreed,he just asked me if he could stay one more nite that tomorrow he will have a place to go ,he has always been good about that part anyway he is easy go easy come back,lol,give him credit there ,no drama for me .now my sister is thinking she is having a nervous breakdown and may have to go in to have treatment,which that would be a good thing also,it's all in gods hands now I'm stepping aside and am not in anyway get in his way of his will,it's a very sad sit.on both sides my addict sister breakdown and addict bf leaveing not really knowing where he has got to go ,but not my problem I'm got my sanity and plan on keeping it.
