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Britta


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My husband has relapsed and hes back to his old self. Sweet as can be when sober but mean as all hell (verbally) when drinking. I realize I love only part of him and I hate what he becomes when hes drinking. Hes been completely drunk the last 2 nights and I dont want to be treated that way anymore. Really just some advice, pr support or just how you knew it was over. I would love to bw with the man i know he can be but im at my wits end with the man he has been these past nights. It reminds me of before and i dont want to go back there again, i just cant.

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Crau


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I can empathize with the struggle you are facing in your head and heart. I logically knew my relationship was over well before I even realized that alcoholism was the thing that wasn't working between us. My heart is still trying to play catch up. You will know when it's time for you to know and you will act on it when you are ready to. I guess that's the whole role of the HP, right?! It's not easy...and there may be a need for a lot of Kleenex...trust in yourself and it be ok...

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missmeliss


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For me, the more i worked at al-anon the easier it became for me to clear my head and make decisions that i felt confident about.
In a lot of ways what the program helps do is clear everyone else's voice out of your head so that you can hear the ones that matter- you own and your HP's.
So my best suggestion would be to dive into the program. Do you attend meetings?

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My partner is the same lovely when he his so sobour but completely someone else when he's drunk it's horrible, then u end up sticking around convincing your self they will stop x


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