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Just did my taxes and because we got laid off and had to cash in our pensions to survive, we owe a s___ load of money to IRS. Im hoping I can work with them on payment plan. Im sooo stressed,what with having divorce papers served, dealing with home ownership transfer,my sis in law and no job. The only thing good is my lovelife. Dont want to drive my guy crazy
Hugs to you Alyce!! Glad you were able to come here and vent. Just do the next right thing. Call the IRS, work out the payment plan, take a deep breath, put out a resume for a job search, etc. One day at a time, one step at a time in the right direction. My guy stayed with me through all my trials this past year because he saw that I was always proactive, that I didn't sit around and look for a handout, that I found solutions to my problems, and that I took responsibility for myself.
When we started dating, I was still married, had just filed for divorce, was NOT working, was trying to manage life as a newly single mom and had a ton of emotions bouncing around in my head and my heart. My guy stayed with me and now I'm able to return the favor and be there for him while he's in a transition in his life. You won't drive your guy crazy if you are taking care of YOU. HUGS to you again today!
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andromeda...wonderful advice, thanks, it felt like a friend was here with me when i read it. I will manaage one minute at a time and get these things done.
Did you already file your taxes?? I think there is some type of partial exemption for using your 401k due to the loss of a job; I think I remember that. But for sure contact the IRS for a payment plan.....
Alyce - so sorry for this situation. I have watched you use this program to 'move mountains'. I have no doubt that you can work through this as well. I love what serenity shared about her BF...It is a powerful reminder that we are imperfect in our human form, but can own our issues, work through them, get/stay healthy and keep/find our peace.
(((hugs))) - we're here for you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
