Joker your statements and questions to him actually should be for you.  If nothing changes, nothing changes and it is you who needs to change.  I know how difficult it is to consider that and then to act it out because I have been there and done that also until the first time I acted on my need for self protection and recovery.  Alcoholics do not have a well connected behavioral response system.  They hear and let it pass and return to the difficulties that they react with.  Anyone that does not pet their egos and self centeredness becomes the victim where in reality they themselves do not want that to happen.  They also fear consequences and not so much when they are not followed thru with.  You don't have to wait for another event to happen...you can call and make a report now..when he is sleeping or out of the house.  You can call a shelter.  You can re-assess you life and make it as important at it really is.

I am a former alternatives to violence men's case manager.  I would have already had him in a cell thinking about change and a sentence.

In support.  ((((hugs))))

I had called the police on him once and I was the one that was told to leave the situation. I had to leave and go to a hotel room. I was so upset with the police for not protecting me. I just spoke to him now and he is hung over and said to him clearly without blame what he did and that the police will be called, enough is enough. I said to him is that what you want, you to get charged for assault...he says no, I do not. I said to him, this continues, the drinking and abuse, the police will be here again and you will be charged for assault. I left it at that and walked away. He says he needs to quit drinking. I just said nothing and laughed as he gagged and was nearly puking. It is so sad he is like this, not my problem.     

People have made wise comments - if you came upon a crazy violent person in an alley it wouldn't be fair that he attacked you and it wouldn't be fair that you had to run - but it is a logical consequence.  Fairness and justice may win out over a period of years or decades or at the day of judgement - philosophers and theologians have argued about that one for centuries.  But in the here and now, actions and consequences are the forces of our lives.  When a crazy person attacks you, if you don't get out of the way, the tragic consequence is that you will be hit.  The thing about crazy people - and I include active alcoholics in that category - is that they can't control themselves.  So even if he agreed not to hit you, the next time he has the impulse, he would do it anyway.

I don't know what your living setup is - whether you own it or rent.  If you own it together, a lawyer will be able to tell you how to separate without losing your rights to half of the place.  If you rent and you are on the lease, a lawyer or legal aid should be able to tell you your options in getting off the lease.  If you own or have the lease and your A has no stake in it, a lawyer should be able to tell you how to get him out. 

I imagine your local domestic violence shelter will be familiar with all these problems and can refer you to people who can give legal advice.

The thing about alcoholism and violence is that they don't go backwards on their own.  They get worse.  This sounds as if it is getting worse rapidly.  Your safety is at stake.  Please take this very seriously and protect yourself.  Handle the fairness questions later.  It does no good if you're right and dead.  Please take care of yourself.

Keep in mind sister that the abuse can go both ways...get angry enough and fearful enough and you can be the one in the cell.  Hmmm I despise the picture that leaves in my mind and then it is the repeat of an old picture ...mine.  Terrible people we love should live.   ((((hugs))))