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My AS was supposed to come over this afternoon to do some work on a car he's buying from us. He was a no-show. This is unsurprising, but I'm still having a quiet little panic over what might have happened to him, why he hasn't contacted us, etc. My grip on "I can't control what anyone else does, only what I do" is slipping. He's grown; it's not my responsibility to track him down or look after him. I guess I'm checking in to say I'm struggling a bit, and I'm glad this board is here.
I completely understand foothold. When my AD was a no show I would get into a state of anxiety, worrying excessively about what may have happened to her. She was oblivious to the stress it caused . Most times the stress and anxiety was all for nothing and my time could have been much better spent looking after me. I am learning to accept one day at time that I have no control over anything good or bad . It was always helpful to me to remember that she had an HP that was looking out for her and that I wasn't it! Hugs to you today while you are struggling today and glad you posted.
-- Edited by serenity47 on Sunday 7th of February 2016 06:23:01 PM
I understand too foothold......the first 'thought' is to call them, check on them, etc. I've been where you are and get the slipping feeling!
Not only are mine airheads but they are quasi-immature (really immature most days!). I suppose that's just part of life. I try to busy myself with something I enjoy doing or something I need to do (start laundry....something) to change my focus. Like Serenity, I do try to use the serenity prayer to remind myself of what is within my power and to keep in mind there is a larger force in charge and a bigger picture I don't see .
(((Hugs))) - hang in there!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
