The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for Feb. 6 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of not giving advise and waiting forissues to resolve themselves and not reacting -One such principle is that we mention to newcomers-- do not make any major life changes until you are in program for at least six first six months unless you are in a situation of danger.
The reading suggests that many times we come to alanon thinking that someone will tell us what to do immediately: , such as get out of that relationship or make the person leave. We finally see the wisdom of waiting because our attitudes do change the more we practice the Al-Anon program. With these "Changed attitudes" we are able to make sensible well-thought-out decisions and not react to the insanity.
Today's reminder states that when my thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions. I probably won't get the results I seek; "when in doubt, don't.".
The quote is from As We Understood:"Guide me in all I do, to remember that waiting is the answer to some of my prayers".
Thank you Betty for the daily and your service. I am one who forced decisions and solutions prior to recovery. And rarely did it work out in a good way. Not always horrible but certainly not aligned with where I needed my head and heart to be. I am grateful that today, I can seek support from my HP, my sponsor, fellowship and trusted program friends if/when I am uncertain of the next right thing.....
I talked this morning in my F2F meeting about reclaiming my 'normal' - as I feel unbalanced.....I have a mini tug-of-war between my own need to grieve and trying to be of service to others who are also grieving. Balance has never been easy for me especially in times of trouble/anxiety. I am grateful for the fellowship and all the lessons I can learn by listening to others and seeking support.
I have always really liked the When in Doubt, Don't Slogan - it has served me well in many instances. I've been able to say Yes and/or No by taking time to listen for the next right thing and immediate responses would likely have been different and far less effective.
Thank you for your ESH Betty - have a super day in your world! The sun is out and we're to have almost 50 degree temperatures! Makes me get antsy for spring!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I agree with Iamhere. Thank you so much for you Daily's and your knowledge. I know you spend a great deal of time helping others. You are a wonderful person, Betty. I like the When in Doubt, Don't, as well. I just need to remember to practice it. It will come in very handy for me, when I get accustomed to using it. Thank you both for your wisdom and information
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KathyRN
"A PROBLEM IS ONLY A PROBLEM, IF YOU CHOOSE TO SEE IT AS A PROBLEM!"
