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I have not posted in a while just thought I would update what is going on lately:
AH is back to drinking, I may have mentioned that. Better luck next time I guess. MIL has been staying with us now for 10 days after a fall that landed her in the ER. NO broken bones or open wounds this time. she is just old and weak.. They have also put her back on chemo and I do not even want to ask the dr why...when that is what gave her the kidney failure to begin with...I know she can be insistent on things and I am sure they had her sign a lot of paperwork before proceeding. Her constant falling could have also been due to she was taking many pills some all day which were only meant for bedtime. and I explained that to her. She handed over all her pills to me and asked me to make sure she gets the right ones when she is supposed to..which i take as a compliment when she kicked a nurse out of her house and said no one controls my meds until I am bed ridden...LOL....she is a sweetheart, but she can be a mean old coot too...she is constantly telling me she would like to go home for a few days and I say OK...but the next day she doesn't mention it so she stays. with everything I am doing now I cannot stay at her place with her and she knows that. At least when I am gone AH is here...and then he doesn't start drinking anything till i get home. I seem to be in a happy place in my mind lately and I dont know why and I will not question it..I just thank HP for it. I do everything I can to use my tools in all situations in my life...and maybe that is what puts me in this happy place..plus the fact that I can help someone who has helped me in many ways the last 14 yrs. MIL can be a pain sometimes but cant we all be? I love her to pieces, and I really think this love i give her she has never felt even from her own children. My opinion on love is that no matter what there story is...everyone deserve to be loved by someone. I dont know all of their story but I do know some. anyway just thought I would check in...I am still attending MIP online meetings and going to f2f when I can....everyone be blessed
Heya Debra - you sound at peace! That, to me, is the poster photo for MIP.....taking care of self, service work, using the tools and being true to yourself - way to go!
Thoughts and prayers for you all....know that we're still here for you!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I love your new avatar. You really do know how to take things odaat :) I'm glad you're in a good place. You sound like you've have acceptance and great faith in your hp. Your MIL is lucky to have you. It's good that your ah is willing to look after his mother without drinking while you are out during the day. I hope you find some ME time to do even something small that you enjoy. Being a caregiver is a tough job. Your family is my prayers. Thanks for sharing your experience, strength and hope. (((hugs))) TT
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just thought I would update what is going on lately: