I think i might have landed both. One of them has me starting hourly right away so that is awesome. It will give me time to see if I like it and them enough to stay fulltime and salaried which they said would open up in 2 weeks. That is the adult place. The teen rehab, the owner was like "let's work out something!" and I was like "YAY!" Then he directed me to HR lady who said "We have more interviews. Will figure out hiring by end of next week." To which I was then like "WTF!? The owner pretty much just said he wanted me." Confusing. Not betting on it cuz I have been so close to job offers to then have them taken back. Nothing is for sure til it is in writing. Either way, glad to be working and earning some money starting tomorrow.

 

 

I've got it somewhat in my mind to get back into the therapy practice since reading your post and waiting for the end to come for me and my wife also and then I haven't been listening enough for the voice of my HP which has directed me always.  Will see what HP says day to day....(((((hugs))))) 

Wow Speedy Pinkchip!!!! Have a great day and enjoy the affirmation of being recognised as great at what you do. I'm smiling for you!

Good luck, stay close, we do miss you...linsc

I think i may find out about salary tomorrow. It wont be what it was but agency is better, clients more serious about recovery, it's  a far more reputable place t9 do real therapy with willing persons.  The schedule will involve some evenings. Less time with my spouse which is sucky. He already teaches real estate in the evenings on nights I would not be working so yeah...that part sucks. I personally don't want him working evenings... As I need a job and can't be picky, it seems I have no choice and his night gig is not something he HAS to do. We almost argued about it. But, while I don't like it, I feel it is wrong for me to demand or even ask him to give up sometuing he likes doing just to be at home with me 2 more nights out of the work week. This schedule will have us only seeing each other in the early AM and bedtime during the week.

-- Edited by pinkchip on Wednesday 3rd of February 2016 10:30:04 PM

We did argue about it. He seems to want to work 3 jobs more than spend time with me and told me I was codependent and my behavior was unacceptable. I think perhaps just too much stress and change at once and Im still reeling.

((Mark)) Positive thoughts on the way. I always wanted to freeze my life when I thought that it was perfect but HP had other ideas.

Change and relationships are difficult. Each asks that we have the courage to accept that life requires our growth and that we will thrive in this new place.

With the hours changing that you spend together, it might make your time together more precious . You will be able to schedule date nights and special time together.

Keep in touch

No...he likes it. He likes having his hand in a million different pots. I truly don't think he has taken stock of how much he has taken on. I had to take this job...beggars can't be choosers. We are a dual income zero children home. His night gig is not a necessity as is being on every damn committe at church. But again, damned if I am going to beg someone to choose me over what they otherwise want to do. Been there, done that. Pathetic coda boy needs to stay buried. I let my feelings be known. Ball is in his court I guess.

(((Pinkchip))) - that's about all I got for you today.....I too struggle with feeling rejected/dismissed. I tend to personalize it and have to consciously tell myself that it's not me, it's him/them. I've had a rough, rough week and instead of a hug from my oldest child last night at a visitation for a family member, I got an attitude that needs adjusting and a snotty response to a question about my sick grandchild.....I had a long drive home, and had to keep reminding myself how powerless I am over people, places and things....

Hang in there and know that you are not alone! I hope the new job works out for you!!

Oh Pink!!

Congrats and I knew it would all workout it always does! Like I said in another post .. don't sweat the small stuff .. sometimes it's a whole lot smaller than I think it really is.

Hugs S :)

Hope things have cleared up with you and your spouse, Pink. You both are adjusting to changes so the stress levels will be higher. Hope things are working out for you both and you've found your groove. Congrats on the job, too!

Progress is a great think pinkchip!!! I think being able to communicate with one another is the most challenging aspect of a relationship. It truly takes 2 committed to active listening and being heard for the message intended. Sounds so simple yet so many (my marriage included) tend to try and read between the lines and make assumptions.

Kudos to you and Chuck for healthy and productive discussions as you go through your transitions!!

(((Hugs))) to you both!

Now.....that just sucks......so so sorry - I've got you in my thoughts and prayers! Take care of you Mark - know that we're here for you!

IAM, kinda summed it up for me as well ... I do not blame you for feeling re-traumatized!! I can't believe those that hired you did not
have their act together and did not have a grasp of their own business picture!! Extending my thoughts and prayers for you as well {{Pinkchip}}.

-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 12:49:20 PM

 

 

Have you considered private practice in the mean time PC?  Leave your information with providers...might work...(((hugs)))

Yes Jerry. I am fighting it but the universe may be pushing me in that direction lol.

I have not been sure if I am the private guy type. That involves a load of self promotion, overhead, feast or famine. It would involve getting on lots of insurance panels, billing...blah blah. Not as simple as just "screw it! I wanna be my own boss!" Of course I know you are probably aware of all this, but just stating what fears (and yes, they are just that) have held me back from private practice.

-- Edited by pinkchip on Tuesday 16th of February 2016 12:02:52 PM