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Thanks Debb, so true. I've recently returned to doing the daily gratitude list and it's amazing what you can turn up when you're really feeling it's all against you; some days it takes a long time to find gratitudes and yet those ones seem to be the most golden ones
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Lovely, lovely and ... lovely! Thanks Debb for sharing with us!!! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I can readily say "Thank You" when my life is going well however when I am in pain and grieving the loss of a loved one I am still unable to say "Thank you "
In retrospect, I can look back see and feel my HP's presence even in the most difficult situation and be grateful . Some day I amy be able to do so as it is happening Progress not perfection. Thanks Debb
Yes, I am returning to my gratitude list, also. When I focus on everything I have to be thankful for it is amazing how quickly I get grounded in a better place...
As I sat in the hospital today with my Aunt, it was a strange, long day. I had taken my tote bag and had my literature with me. I read my daily readers and was sitting there trying to be still and quiet. Of course, at this point, I thought if I talked on the phone or turned on the TV, I would disturb my Aunt who appeared to be sleeping and snoring loudly. The longer I sat there, staff came in to do 'their thing'....it dawned on me that I could probably sing the Star Spangled Banner and would not disturb my Aunt.
So, I turned on the TV and sat for the entire day with nothing but time on my hands. I was sad for obvious reasons, and then started to look around me. She was not in pain - grateful. She was in a beautiful new hospital with a private room and plenty of space for visitors (me to lounge on the couch) - grateful. I was present and able to relieve my cousin for the day - grateful. Before I even got far, I wasn't sad. I was not jumping up for joy, but as others have stated, I was grounded and in a better place.
Gratitude lists are so very helpful for so many instances when I am ungrounded, sad, mad, etc. Such a simple tool that can turn my frown upside down!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Debb - she is going to Hospice Care today at some point. The expectation is that she is not going to recover and instead is preparing for her most important journey yet...
I am working on acceptance today and am at peace - for this moment!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Beautiful.
I hold onto the wonderful things that can come from hardships and difficult times. The beautiful love and support that swells up around us, finding an inner courage and strength we did not know was there, and an intimate knowledge of the fragility of life making it all the more treasured.
I am working on being gentle to myself when I create or actively allow dificult things in my life. I am learning, and growing and when I do these things it is my disease. I can be aware of it and work on changing it without beating myself up.
Hugs to everyone who is facing grief or hardship today.