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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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My fiance is titrating off of methadone. He has become very distant and disconnected, depressed and anxious. He seems to just want to do his own thing. I am very supportive but this is really wearing me down. I have been a cushion for him for over a year, never pushing too hard, but lately I'm always upset. I'm lonely and confused by his behavior. Sometimes I think maybe it isn't even the methadone but us. I am so lucky that he is not violent or straightforwardly mean, but this is a day to day stressor and upset for me.
Anyone with a similar experience or any thoughts or any support is so welcome. I feel so alone and emotional and confused.
I have no experience with this but did want to say that support for you and what you are feeling and going through is possible.
Al-Anon and Nar-Anon both can provide you with other people who have experience with your situation and/or something similar.
One of my qualifiers used Suboxone (?sp) to get off H. He did not go through any taper down as he ended up in jail/prison. It was hell on wheels and he had long-lasting withdrawals from either/both that made him very, very moody and withdrawn.
See if you can find some local meetings to help you with your feelings and to better understand the disease and how it affects both you and him. If you prefer, online meetings happen here twice a day - the schedule is up on the top left hand side. The link for the meeting room is there too!
Sorry for your pain, confusion and isolation - keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I echo that Iamhere says - going to an Al Anon or nar Anon meeting will definitely help with these kinds of issues. If you can't find a Nar Anon meeting, most Al Anon meetings would consider you qualified, and would be plenty helpful. It's amazing how much all these addictions have in common, it seems addictions are much the same, details are just in which drug is being abused.
