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I find another needle or syringe hidden where I was cleaning at this makes several times I found his syringes put in hideous places ,this morning I threw it at him and he tried to denie it so when I told him what I thought he said he had to do it to put up with my bxxxxing ,everyday I said you kept doing the same old things sneaking around same ole ppl young guy early 20s come over every nite and morning he is 53 boy is 22 ,I just told him he just neede to get out he said he would have to leave cause of my bxxxxing,at him every day my sister even said that he couldn't do right for doing wrong in my eyes that if I wasn't on his butt I was on her butt,she hasnt a clue of the trauma before he went to jail that he put me through but like she said I let him back in my home,he cleans and cleans around my home and never sits down all day and all nite I know what he is doing to get all the energy,he stays outside for most part stays busy and on his ph and texting a lot.he has a lot on him come court in February.he is facing a felony charge of intent to sell and distribute meth,and no telling what all else the courts will have on him he is out on bond now and still owes I've heard 400 more dollars to bondsman.do I love him?yes I do but how and what has he even got to offer me back?nothing,he is what he is plain to see he isn't capable of loveing someone I don't think with that habit,I know it's everywhere now a days but I don't like it in my home or anywhere on my premises.he has contacts and I know it's a everyday struggle to get it with no job especially.he just here cause I'm his best option being out on bond.and he been doing everything around my home like to please me and he says he can't please me I still get ill,and yes I stay I'll a lot cause I know that what's going on isn't my life or even part of it ....needing help here I am working my alanon
.do I love him?yes I do but how and what has he even got to offer me back?nothing,he is what he is plain to see he isn't capable of loving someone I don't think with that habit,I know it's everywhere now a days but I don't like it in my home or anywhere on my premises.he has contacts and I know it's a everyday struggle to get it with no job especially.he just here cause I'm his best option being out on bond.
((lookingup))) It sounds as if you had expectations of this man when you allowed him to return to your home. Since he is an addict, without program, it is practically impossible for him to live up to any promise so that the best you can do is to really take care of yourself and have consequences attached to your boundary. For example If you use here you must move out.
If you cannot do this then changing your expectations might work. He is going to use, then you need to take care of yourself --If you are going use then I am going to: hide all my valuables get to meetings, not engage in arguments or give out money.
You cannot keep surrendering your serenity to this person --- so please come here and keep using program. Positive thoughts on the way
