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Islander22


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I can't keep excusing his episodes of drinking.  I cant protect my sweet children from his crap anymore.  So exhausting!  He will go a month, sometimes several.  Then the flood gate opens and he stays out til 2am and is so intoxicated.  Then a fight, then he sulks around for three days repeat, repeat repeat.  21 years of repeats. 



-- Edited by Islander22 on Tuesday 22nd of December 2015 07:52:41 PM

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Welcome Islander You are not alone Please search out alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend The hot line number is is the white pages
Alcoholism is a chronic, progressive disease that can be arrested but never cured. You did not cause it and cannot cure it.

Alanon is a fantastic recovery program for family members so please check out the meetings and keep coming back here as well. There is hope

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Welcome to MIP islander - glad you found us and glad you found your courage to share.

This disease is powerful and progressive. Recovery is possible, if/when the alcoholic chooses it. Until that happens, you can choose recovery in Al-Anon, and learn tools to cope as well as have support and fellowship while learning how to best react to (or not) the disease and the find peace, joy and happiness no matter what your qualifier is or is not doing.

We learn about the disease, how to detach, how to set boundaries and how to take care of ourselves and put ourselves first. Hope you will explore some meetings to get local support - you are not alone!

Keep coming back!

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It is amazing how I just volunteered to excuse my alcoholic/addicts drinking and using and she never asked me to....duh. When I finally learned and found the doors of the Al-Anon family groups I quit being responsible for her choices and consequences. Had to get to the face to face meetings first. Thank God there never was a shortage of groups in our neighborhood and now MIP...recovery is good. Keep coming back often and join us in recovery. (((((hugs))))) smile

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Islander22--

I recognize my story in what you have described.  I agree with all of the above that what turned my life around was coming into the program; attending meetings, getting a sponsor, doing the readings....everything that got my recovery started.  Keep coming back--you are not alone!

 

Mary



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