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So last night was supposed to be my Christmas with my ABF as I am leave tonight to go see my family back east, and he is leaving on Christmas to see his for 2 weeks. We were supposed to go get dinner and look at Christmas lights around town. He went out to a party the night before and stayed out all night and day. So needless to say he was in no shape to do what we had planed. I knew this might happen but I guess I was hopeful that because I handed my anxiety about it over to my HP it might work out. I'm not mad I know he cant help it but I am very sad about it. If anything comes out of this I hope its that I am able to detach more so I can focus on my family when I am there for Christmas. Thanks for listening everyone. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday.
So sorry your night didn't go as planned MC. I know how disappointing that is. I used to try to make plans with my AH for a dinner date at a nice restaurant and he would either be too drunk to go or he would go and act terribly so I would have a miserable time anyway. I would spend all this time getting ready, picking the perfect outfit to wear and get all excited just to be let down again. After so many years of this I simply got tired and gave up. Even now that he is sober we still don't go out much. I hope you have a wonderful holiday with your family in spite of what your ABF is doing. I try to remind myself just the fact that I am alive and well and able to enjoy the little things in life is a miracle in itself. (((HUGS)))
(((MC))) I know that this was disappointing and i am impressed how well you handled the event. It appears that turning over your anxiety to HP did work. Learning acceptance of life on life's terms was a huge lesson for me adn I see you are mastering it as well
Keep using yoru tools and have a Happy Holiday.
