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I went on a date .. my very first real date .. with a man no less.
It has been nice and the best part is this .. it's nice having someone who will take initiative calls or texts, makes plans and is not waiting for me to do all of the work. In any relationship I have always been the one who has had to do the majority of the work suggesting we get together .. making contact and this is just nice .. if I want to pick up and text I do .. it's very nice to have someone who is taking an interest in me.
Regardless of where this leads .. I'm really ok with the status quo. And I can't believe I finally got the courage up to go out. I had tried internet dating and that wasn't working .. I just got bad vibes in terms of I chose not to follow through and this one actually chatted me up at a coffee shop for a week. Intelligent conversation, he doesn't drink, he's very funny and appealing. This is a nice change from how I allowed myself to be spoken to by my X and how it is almost awkward for me to be treated nicely. He's got a gentle soul and I really like that .. very artistic. Best part of this whole deal .. I don't feel like if I don't hear from him my life as I know it will end so I would say that is big progress since my 20's.
Anyway, .. considering the craptastic week I have had already and yes the last two weeks has been incredibly stressful .. this part has been a good distraction.
We'll see I still think my life is a little to drama filled for most and I'm ok with that only because it's my mess and I know I need to clean it up. Getting the courage up to go out was a big deal.
Sigh .. lol. S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
WTG girl....I just about spit my water over the 'with a man no less.' - LOLOLOL....
So glad that you went and enjoyed yourself! Keep the program work up - your post shows me that no matter what, you'll be A-OK!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
You go girl!!! If you want any support as you move forward, you know I'm always around and willing to message. I've been on the early dating and crazy in the head crap myself recently and it's taken me 7 months to settle in to a comfortable place with my new guy. I was all over the place for months, lol, and he was none the wiser. I love the man I'm dating today but it took courage for me to keep pressing on and going on the next date, and the next, etc. And, yes, he did all the initiating in the beginning (for the first 3 months or so) and I was so willing to let him take the lead. Such a welcome change.
Hugs to you!!!! I try to keep up on your FB posts you know, but I'm so freaking busy!
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
Oh I have So NOT posted this public ha ha .. My ex would have already tried to drag me back to court lol. He's convinced I did not move on my own. Thank you and I will take you up on it I'm sure. I really don't know how far this will go. I just don't have a lot of time. My week has consisted of trying to get hired full-time at my temp job and yesterday cleaning out my wonderful bosses office trying not to vomit. My paycheck didn't show up lol. I'm like ok really?! You can stop the funny act God of my understanding .. Not funny!!! Lol. I'm just really taking everything one day at a time. Hugs.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Excited for you getting out there, being brave and living life and all.
yay!
(((serenity)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
getting out there, being brave and living life and all.