The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for December 14 speaks about the many forms of loss that we may face in life. The reading uses the example of the loss of a partner through death, divorce, incarceration or illness. When we experience such grief many times we tend to push people away but by attending meetings we learn that by wanting help we can start to attend more meeting and pick up additional program support .
We can learn to go back to step one," admitted we were powerless over the loss and that life is again become unmanageable, and then walk through the steps and grow once again.
We must accept that pain and loss are part of life and no matter what we do we will not be able to change that fact. With the program, I have been able to face, and grow through anything that comes my way.
And the quote is from , In all Our Affairs,:". The foundation. I have developed in Al-Anon not only makes me grateful when things are going well, it also makes me realize that the program works especially when things go badly."
I can readily attest to this as I have.lost " My husband and son during the time that I've been in Al-Anon and although the pain and grief were enormous , the tools of the program brought me through. It took effort and tools to be able to get to the " acceptance" and live life on life's terms. concepts but I did an am eternally grateful.
Thank you for your heart felt share on The reading
of the day. I can not imagine the pain of losing your
child and your husband.
My struggles are within my marriage and divorce.
I found by reaching out for love and support From
good healthy people gave me the courage And strength
I did not have inside of me at the Time and Learning
to embrace and trust God in my time Of need.
It certainly is a process, the grieving, much good came
from it as far as inner healing and facing my truths. I still
am in it and it is very slow to leave. Its all in Gods time
not mine. I No longer stress if i toss and turn at night,
they are just my unresolved feelings and emotions, I am
not afraid of them or ashamed.
I keep taking baby steps to emotional and spiritual
Wellbeing.
Lovely share Betty - thanks for your ESH and your courage that you show us and bring us each and every day....
This program has brought me so many tools, and dealing with loss was a difficult task for me before. I either acted as if nothing happened (prolonged or refused to process) or I was a basket-case - full of anxiety, fear and emotions. As with most things, I was an all or nothing person with loss too.
So glad that I am learning proper processing through Al-Anon. So grateful that I have a relationship with a higher power which helps me understand nothing happens by mistake and he's got a better plan for all of us than I could ever know of or plan for. I have to take care of me, and have/practice faith in a power greater than me, and I am better able to manage my feelings when there is a loss.
Program, program friends, sponsor and all the tools give me what I need to get through any/every thing. I just have to pause long enough to realize I am never alone and there is always help as needed/wanted.
(((Hugs))) - great reading, great share and thanks to both!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
