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As I have plodded along on my journey trying to grasp and understand myself, I realize that the pain subsides and I emerge from the darkness with a knowledge that I can trust myself to make decisions. I was shopping the other day and I needed some items for my home, I wasn't sure which would work best so I asked a man standing next to me. He helped me with some advice and we continued talking, the mention of exchanging numbers came up and he seemed like a nice man so I took his number,but as I continued to shop I noticed he was in every aisle that I was in, in different areas of the store. He approached me again and said he wanted to take me to lunch and asked for a hug!! Um, just no!, In that moment I realized that he was controlling and possessive!, by continuing to follow me and not just leaving the call up to me spoke volumes to me.I feel as if I have become aware of what I want in a relationship and I know that I don't want someone who is so needy that they feel the need to follow me around the store,but just let things unfold on their own,I am really excited about this awareness and I believe I made a good decision. I listened to my internal guide, that voice that says just No!
Mary - I agree - what great awareness and listening to the inner voice.....way to go! Self-awareness and 'other-awareness' is such a gift to help keep us protected and sane!
(((Hugs))) - love the share!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
A similar thing happened to me when i was waiting in a car repair shopw with my girlfriend while i was apartment shopping. A tall guy came up to me and said he heard us talking about looking for an apartment for me as he was also searching for an apartment. he was divorcing his wife of many years because she didnt pay attention to him. I had been talking loud as my girlfriend is hard of hearing. Anyway, when i found out that he was jewish and from ny originally, i got hooked into a 1/2 hr conversation with him. I was flattered but later realized that he was very ego driven and had a chip on his sshoulder it seemed. thank goodness he didnt ask for my number.
When i was apartment hunting i had some
Interest coming my way. I nipped it in the bud
And kept it professional. No problem after i
Moved, i am just more cautious who knows
Where i live and that i am alone. Its a scary
World out there even in the country. Some
Men prey On vulnerable newly single women
that are now living alone.
Self-awareness and knowing you can trust your instincts :) awesome post! Sounds like you managed to steer clear of someone who might have ended up getting the way of your serenity.
