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No two addicts are the same..they can both use the same drug and have different reactions. Last night mine told me he needed to go to rehab..I was really stunned because I had no idea he was still using..I mean how many meth addicts eat and sleep lol
I told him I loved him, but hated his disease and would stick by him. For me that's the hard part, not taking my cape out of storage and trying to "fix" him.
I am so grateful to this program, otherwise I would've been up all night researching rehab facilities lol. Instead I gave him the number to a good friend in NA and let him know that I loved him.
His original plan was to move to another state..but I told him the disease would follow him there too..detaching in love
Hey ceewi - so sorry that this disease is 'still living @ your home'.....In my experience, when the A comes to the point of asking for help without badgering, threats, etc. from the loved ones, it is a very good sign. My oldest son no longer lived with us when he finally got serious about his life, his disease, his future, etc. He called in the middle of the night and asked me to drive him to rehab - he had actually done the research and knew they had a bed. I did so and was surprised that I was able to be woken up, stirred out of bed, picked him up, drove an hour one way, spent an hour for check-in, returned home and ... kept my mouth shut beyond, I love you and one day at a time....
This program gives us what we need to take care of ourselves when we rely on it. I am hopeful for you and your qualifier, and will keep you both in my prayers!
Keep coming back - a geographical move is often suggested as part of the relapse prevention. I agree with you - the disease travels well and sits in wait, but I've supported a few of those too over the years!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Ceewi my AH also wanted to go out of state to "dry out" at a friend's cabin across the country. I was blindsided. Here I had been working 2 jobs and caring for two children alone trying to keep us afloat. Because he tried rehab once before and it didn't work he decided he would go the route of hunting and fishing in the wilderness for a month. He manipulated his family members into buying him a plane ticket with the agreement he would go to detox for 3 days first. Well by the grace of God the counselors at detox got through to him and talked him into staying for the full 2 week program. This was back in June. He has not drank since and is actively involved in AA. He hasn't used the plane ticket --yet. They were able to get the airline to hold it for a year. I will not be happy if he ends up going...I told him the right thing to do would be to pay back the money to his family but there isn't a darn thing I can do about it. I'm taking it one day at a time. Just wanted you to know you're not alone!
