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Here we go back on the merrygoround again.....I know advice is not usually given on these boards but I was just wodering if anyone has any experience having a spouse removed from the home without having them arrested or a restraining order which is permanent. I moved out with my two girls a year ago due to his behavior and drinking but over the course of the year we attempted to reconcile and I thought things we're going to be betteras he seemed to understand the errors of his ways but unfortunately that's not the case and things have gotten worse. I refuse to uproot my children once again over this as I cant really afford moving costs or cost to get a lawyer and its not fair to them to have to leave their home. I'm trying to figure out how to have him removed short of having him arrested or something permanent like that. I don't want him put in jail I just want him gone. I thought about changing the locks and when he got home and inevitably have a fit and cause a scene I would call the police but my thoughts are that he would only be removed for a day or two because his name is on the house too. I'm just curious if anyone else has been successful doing this without going the route of permanent police records etc. My breaking point the first time this happened was his rage full temper. This time around that's not the case this time around he refuses to keep a job aor consistently help with the bills and continues to make our home and the lives of our girls is stressful and painful with his erradic behavior, and irresponsibilty among other things. Not only has he not been going to work which leaves the financial burden of the house and kids on my modest salary but he's now got a car isnurance company about to sue him over damages to someones car (because of no insurance) I just cant take it anymore and neither can my kids.
Hopefull15 - I have no experience in this situation but wanted to offer you prayers for peace and positive thoughts. Sorry for the pain you and your children are experiencing - we are here for you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
The most successful attempts I have seen work involved Family Services and their programs to protect the family. I use to work in that system and they have connections to many other services that also help. Call Family Services in your area and ask them how they can help. Remember the other social model services attached to churches and social model groups like YWCA and YMCA. Good luck and keep coming back. (((hugs)))
