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I'm finding myself picking arguments with my mate or ab,he don't drink very much anymore since he has gotten some health issues but as I was thinking it was all him my sister pointed out to me that my ab can't do nothing right that I don't fuss on him everyday ,I've since caught myself doing this very thing is fussing and argueing with him everyday,so I've stopped it completely the fussing and argueing and now I'm seeing a diff. Person in front of me ,respectful,loveing,and U.S. Trying hard to make things work with me but he said all I wanted to do was argue ,so things are better since day I e stopped ,I thank yall for all the esh on my last post it soo much needed,I think he is in a bit of shock that I'm not picking fights with him Anymore.its all so strange I guess I've had so many bad past relationships that I'm always expecting unwanted surprises that I try to head off with starting arguments.and yall are so right I have all the time I need no need in rushing into anything trust in my instincts.and keep coming back here and posting.i love yall to the moon and back,and I need to get back to my 12 steps working them.life gets so busy till I forget what I need to be doing ,my sister moved I with me this past summer we had our ups and downs to but she has pointed out things to me that I never before realized I been doing for so long.and vise versa so we have gotten closer as sisters and been lots of he,p to each other also. Thanks for listening to me sorry I made this soo long Im no good at summaries or making anything short I have to go a 100 miles into details...,hugs. Lookingup.....
((Looking UP))) thanks for the positive update. Keeping the focus on ourselves, treating people with courtesy and respect while validating ourselves works I am happy for you. It is important to search out those meetings and keep attending .
I too love the update looking up - we appreciate you too! Keep working it and more will be revealed!! (((Hugs))) for continued success with your daily living and program!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Lookingup, don't worry it's too long. it sounds like you took up the "nothing changes if nothing changes" banner: make a change, and suddenly a lot of other things change.
I have found I have a real problem making a change until I find the real reason for my behavior. That's what the steps are so good for. And so is listening to other people, sounds like that did the trick for you.
