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I am struggling with my grief work.My therapist suggested going to visit the grave site of my ex,I didn't go after the funeral,I just went home.She thinks I need more closure.In the meantime,school is overwhelming me,my house,and the animal situation is too much!!!I feel so drained right now!!I love my daughter with all my heart, but I am going to have to stand my ground,she has an animal rescue problem and she brought another stray cat home,after I told her no more animals!!!That makes 6 animals that I am caring for and cleaning up after.I am a neat freak, so 3 cats and 1 litter box isn't working!!It doesn't take much to overwhelm me right now and I can't get her to listen to me.It is getting to the point that I want to move or do something crazy!!I am so depressed, and when I walk into my bathroom all i smell is cat poo!!I feel like if we can't work this out I am going to start screaming and crying,I don't know what to do!!I am feeling really crazy right now,I have never felt so crazy!!
Mary join a support group if you can that helps.
I still go to my divorce care group its been a year +
I still need the additional help. Ill keep going as long
As i need too.
I still struggle with grieving, depression and trauma.
Its not a straight forward situation also keep feeling your
Feelings and emotions. They are powerful and can
Heal you if you examine them and let them go with
The help of God.
I still can cry some days, crying feels good it lets out
Some pain and hurt. Recovery lets you be honest and
Stop with the denial so there is much inside of you that
Needs to come Out. Think of it as releasing toxins.
If you have been abused this journey with grieving
Is particully painful. Keep talking with your therapist
And embrace everything Alanon.
((Mary))) UP your alanon meetings and telephone calls. Try to contact people on face book who also rescue, They may be able to help. You have a beautiful heart and I am sending Prayers on the way.
(((Mary))) - so sorry that you've 'hit the wall'......that's kind of what I think when I get there. I always feel as if one more thing is going to make me snap!
Grieving is a process. My experience is it's one step forward and one-two backwards. Then, at some point, it flip-flops. I agree with all above - try to up your meetings, more fellowship with healthy persons and/or a support group. I say that my boys can push my buttons faster than anyone as I tend to take everything personally when they do exactly what I asked them not to. I have to keep reminding myself that it's not with malice or consciously intended to irritate me - it's just them being immature and selfish.
If you can, attend a meeting here one morning or evening. I find them very helpful to start or finish my days when I am in a rut or not completely sure what the next right thing to do is.
Know that we're here for you and I'l include you in my prayers. (((Hugs))) for sure....hang in there!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hugs Mary. Its not easy doing Greif counselling I reckon as everything's close to the surface. I lost my lava a month ago after a session, emotions were just everywhere. I agree with betty, about shelter for the cats. Serenity and sense of home is a much needed comfort. Hope you find some amidst all this.
