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ChipsAreFalling


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I'm thinking it's time I sought out a sponsor to work the steps, as I need the kick in the butt to get started seriously. However, I'm at a loss how to decide who to ask (and a little apprehensive about actually doing the asking to be honest).

How did you decide who would be a good fit for you?



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hotrod


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I attended meetings, read the booklet:"Sponsorship what is it all about" . Then I listened at meetings to members share, If I felt I could identify with a member and connect I asked them -- If they were unable to do so I asked another.
Good Luck A sponsor is a true support in this journey

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THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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maryjane


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A sponsor has been described as a "friend". That's it. Someone who is a friend. Trouble is, we alanons have isolated ourselves so long that we have a hard time with that idea. Find someone you would like to have as a friend that is in the program and can talk to you about what is happening in your life. This is not the same as a friend at work who doesn't know about the tools that we use in our program. Find a friend.....

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I was told to look for someone who has what I want. And then ask them. If we aren't jiving, then restart and seek again. My current sponsor has an incredible program and an incredible amount of joy and serenity. I have a ton of program friends. She's my friend now but I saw her more as a mentor than someone I would go hang with. So - pray about it, read about it and go for it.

I've had a few over the years and each has given me more than I had before. If I were able to grow and get well alone, I would have done that a long while ago. I am one who needed a sponsor to get me to a different level of thinking, acting and being.

Good luck - it's so worth it....

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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