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Having had alot of my own experience with anxiety/depression, I can see that the behavior my AH is symptoms of depression as well as alcoholism. Staying in bed 24/7,not wanting to eat,just wanting to sleep etc. I want to know if I should suggest and/or insist he get some help. Like go to the psych er or ?? I feel like I should do something because Im afraid that untreated, he will just think its no use and end up dying. It will be my fault cause I ignored the alert to get him emergency help???
You're really the only one who knows what your situation is as far as if this is something new for your AH. I don't think there's anything wrong with stating your concern if you feel it's safe to do that with him. In other words, if he's not a violent person. (((hugs)))) TT
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(((Alyce )) i do hear you and understand. Remembering that I was powerless over people places and things, when I was faced with the same situation, I did suggest a psych evaluation, he agreed and the psych refused to treat him until he stopped drinking.
The MD prescribed libreum for detox and --he refused all treatment . If you would feel better, I would make the suggestion and let go of the results.
Prayers and positive thoughts on the way
I can relate to your situation a lot. For years my husband has been saying that the drinking was just a symptom of something else and yet when I raised the topic of depression it was usually punted to the sidelines.
Eventually it became important to my well being that I called things as I saw them, and we talked about the effects that living with someone who was choosing to disengaged from life was having on me. I also found it demotivating to be living with someone who could not express enjoyment.
I looked at what my options were, regardless of whether or not my husband got treatment. What did/do I need in my life? I agree with Betty's comment about letting go of the results but for me it just seemed fair to explain what I was doing and why. I have not left my husband but I can not stand where he is as much as I used to. I feel a bit of a heel disengaging so much, but after several months my husband has sought out some appropriate treatment which is really fabulous news.
I can understand, Alyce what you describe. Think if my husband needed an ambulance, because of a life threatening situation that would be different. If he were just lying in bed, depressed and unable to function because of the alcohol, I would suggest help but then detach. I agree with what everyone has related to you.
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thanks guys,you are always so wise. Now pray for me as I interact with his functional alcoholic brother boss so i can get stuff done
By the way, I had a fun time with my bro in law and niece sunday. Looking for apartments, shopping and talking and laughing. Best medicine they are...
