Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

texasgal · Senior Member

losing faith in HP

Green Eyes · ~*Service Worker*~

I had the same issues when I left my AH and moved to a different city. One thing my therapist told me is that "you can't be depressed if you are having fun." So I pushed myself past my comfort zone. I joined a church in my neighborhood and started going to their adult community singles gatherings. Soon I was meeting people who lived nearby (both male and female) who wanted to hang out with other singles. I also joined a couple of "Meetup.com" free groups. My favorite one is a walking group for people in my age group. We walk once a week and there are different people coming into the group each week- mostly people who are new in the area and want to meet people. I also participated in a healing retreat for people who are separated, divorced or widowed. This was an amazing experience for me and I meet some great people who I get together with often. Oh, and Al-Anon meetings- great place to meet like minded people in your area. Sending you lots of ESH as one who has walked in your shoes.

"Take what you like and leave the rest."

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

Texasgal, I like what Green Eyes has suggested!! I think that with

those suggestions, going back to the basics of Al-Anon may help as

well. We all get a little off kilter in our journeys to recovery and I

just get the feeling that you have lost contact with your HP because

you just need to revisit the tools and steps of Al-anon. We all go

through it!!! smile

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

((Texasgal))) I have been there and done that . When my son passed from this disease, I could not pray or meditate. I did tell my HP how I felt and prayed one prayer -you know what i need, you know I cannot connect right now so please continue to help me.

I just kept showing up doing the next right thing and attending many meetings. Some one reminded me that Mother Theresa had spoken often of her periods of Spiritual Dryness and she just kept on doing her work and they lifted That encouraged me .

Be gentle with yourself visit your sister as often as you need and know you are not alone This too will pass.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Texasgirl you sound like me depressed too many changes.

I do not blame God for anything. The devil maybe, he is my
Personal Favorite villain.

I have not moved far myself 13 miles Away. Now i am Alone
at 58 looking for new healthy pals to hang around with.

I am not A bundle of emotional joy either. I also work too many
crazy hours to have a normal social life. I know i need more
balance in my life to get back to normal. Balance has been
Sadly lacking for awhile.

Great suggestions

(((((((( texasgal ))))

-- Edited by Mirandac on Wednesday 9th of September 2015 06:33:15 AM

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

(((texasgal))) -

So very sorry about your sister and your current issues. I see some great ideas above me and can't think of anything great to add but wanted you to know that we are all here for you and we do understand.

For me, when I feel the lowest is when I have to step up my meetings/program work. That's the only 'cure' that's ever worked for me. It helps me to understand that bad things happen to good people and if I do what I should, it will pass and I'll get to the other side.

Hang in there!

LedfootJenny · Senior Member

TG - what an honest share. Thanks for that.

I used to feel so guilty if I was at a place where I couldn't pray, or talk to HP. Now I realize that like all relationships and life, there is an ebb and flow. Also my HP already knows my feelings and is ok with them... even if those feelings are anger, sadness, distrust etc. It's ok to not feel ok. The trick for me is to make sure I'm not crossing that line from sadness and anger into resentment, because that gets me into big time trouble.

I'm so sorry about your sister. It sounds like the move just hasn't felt right. I hope that continue to reach out ODAT until your peace and serenity feel restored.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene