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We've been having a bit of a run of crappy luck lately, daughter and I, I'm kind of in 'batten down the hatches" mode. Daughter expressed to me the other day that she feels she and I "never get a break" and I hadn't realised she felt that way. Sad face.
Anyway I ended up stacking and rolling the huge piles of junk mail on my lounge room floor, not because I felt obliged but simply because my OCD demanded it. And while I did it I watched my lectures and it was actually good because my mind and often my body tend to wander off when I try to do online lectures but sitting crosslegged on the floor methodically stacking and folding papers actually kept me in one spot and focused on the lecturer's voice the entire time, and I retained what I had heard much more effectively than normal. Interesting. I received an (albeit very small) financial reward for getting my lectures done. I don't know how I feel about that, given the circumstances!
So I was going to go and deliver them and be free of them this afternoon but I found myself very weary and decided instead to leave them until tomorrow. Since I loaded them all into the car I'll have to do them then as it's my fortnightly grocery shopping night tomorrow and there's no room in the car. Just to be clear I'm not completing the job because I feel obliged, but because I've ALREADY spent money on supplies and fuel, done more than half of the job and would like the meager payment now, thank you. Even if I use it to hire a singing telegram to visit the guys house and sing "Take this Job And shove It" to him.
Anyway daughter comes home and proceeds outside to her beloved trampoline, on which she jumps for maybe 3 hours every day and more on weekends; one day she may need a 12 step program for trampolining addicts. I get back to my lectures and suddenly she is yelling for me and she runs in covered in blood, it's absolutely pouring out of her neck and she is freaking out and shaking telling me some springs snapped off the trampoline and one hit her in the neck. I can't tell how much damage has been done because aside from all of the blood and the gash in her neck how would I know what kind of damage the impact might have done, and she's about to faint and her pupils are crazy dilated, I'm ashamed to admit I felt very panicky, I couldn't call into my mind where the hospital is or visualise how to get there (which is ridiculous because I walk past it several times a week, and have been there multiple times times, wow, talk about bad in a crisis) so I called a cab and explained I needed to get to the E.R asap and felt too shakey to drive so they had someone here in about 2 minutes; it was a good call in the end as it was peak hour and he knew a quick way dodging the traffic whereas I would have been stuck in traffic for ages having a complete meltdown. But still I'm not happy that I couldn't concentrate enough to calmly drive her to the freaking hospital; it's pretty poor of me
So we hung out in the ER for a while and daughter calmed down and was patched up and pronounced to be very lucky it wasn't much worse like an eye for example. Horrors.The guy said he wasn't going to stitch it because such a big chunk of skin had been taken out that stitching would leave a worse scar (his words were "if I stitch it she'll be even more disfigured" which I thought was a bit of an unnecessarily scary thing to say to her since she couldn't see her own neck, wow...it's just a little neck cut, he made it sound as though she'd grown a hand out of her forehead and webbed feet or something) and the bottom line is she's fine, just have to keep it covered and look out for infection and she's got a very stiff sore neck and when she looks around she moves her whole upper body instead of just her head, like Batman and every time I point this out she gets mad at me for making her laugh which is not fun with a sore neck apparently.
Ugh. So it's true that this served as a warning and I'm grateful to know the trampoline has become unsafe and can't be used anymore. Daughter is less pleased; miserable might be a better way of putting it.
Sigh. Turn it over, next right thing...this too will pass...
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So sorry it appears as a string of 'bad luck' has struck. One of those slogans that works in all scenarios, good and bad, - this too shall pass.
I am quite certain it will happen in short order for you both! Sure hope your daughter heals swiftly and without any added issues! That's too bad that her trampoline has become unsafe - I am sure that's a huge disappointment for her since she enjoys it so much. May she find a new passion that fills that void.
(((Hugs))) to you both - got you in my thoughts and prayers! Glad you're here with us!
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(((Ms.M.))) Plusses and minus all in a few moments Glad to hear that your daughter is OK and recovering nicely. I agree that not attempting to drive was the best choice of action. Staying in the present moment, making a healthy decision to call for help and let the professional drive was a great call.
It certainly is an important indication that you you have let go of reacting but now can respond in a healthy fashion to difficult situations.
Love how you used the negative job issue to help you attain your studding goals. It is fantastic that you accomplished both tasks as well as taking daughter to the ER in a crisis situation.
Positive thoughts on the way-- You two do deserve a break. Please just keep showing up
UGH .. is RIGHT I'm blaming the full moon for the crazy stuff that has been going on recently!!
Sooo glad your daughter was not injured worse how totally terrifying for you both nothing like lots of blood to freeze the brain and what is wrong with people. Working in the funeral industry you would be appalled and amazed at what will come out of people's mouths at a funeral. That job taught me more about sometimes the best healer is a hug and no words. Dr kind of sounds like he lacked some bedside manners!
Yes it is a when it rains it pours mode at the moment which means the sunshine will be out in spades with the rainbows, unicorns and purple unicorn poop. :) My son always has to hear that at the end of that statement .. LOL .. something about it makes it more boy like.
Anyway, hugs and I hope today is a better day for you both!!
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Thanks all, I hope you're right Serenity and we are blessed with lots of unicorn poop soon...lol.
I forgot the best bit which is that I spent $35 on taxis to and from the hospital which is what I was going to earn for doing that stupid job LOL
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Very Interesting Ms.M. If you had not done the job you would have been $35.00 in the red with taking the cab.
Maybe knowing that you had this money comin, enabled you to call the cab, which was the next right action. .
Ugh all around! But you had the presence of mind to get into a taxi and not fall apart instead; and you even had the taxi fare pre-covered! And daughter is fine. And maybe she will be motivated to be extra frugal for a while to start gathering money to buy a new or gently used trampoline.
Setbacks are discouraging and no question you need some pieces of luck to fall into your lap. Look out for them - may they be just around the bend.
Melly, lots of people panic in situations like that. Paramedics and emergency medical technicians take much training and have a lot of knowledge on how not to panic in those situations, because it is recognized that the average person does. Sounds like a potential big emergency turned into more of a distraction, so sounds like an overall win to me, just keep on keepin' on!
So glad she is ok and am glad to read that you worked out for yourself what you would do with the job. When my daughter's car last broke down she was pretty doom and gloom about it but I pointed out how lucky we were that it broke down at home where she was safe - in every bad thing that happens some good can usually be found. So glad your daughter didn't lose an eye or worse! Can the trampoline be repair? springs replaced? maybe its a task daughter should do pre-trampolining, check all springs for wear.
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All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
MissM, it is so ironic sometimes how one crappy situation, can turn uncrappy ... when you least expect it! Ie: That horrible job ended up paying for your daughter's cab ride to the ER. HP does work in such mysterious ways. Glad your daughter will be okay, I mean it not okay to be hurt, but glad it wasn't worse!!
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So sorry to hear this!
And I do think that you responded very well in the situation. Calling a cab was the exact right thing to do, in my opinion. Let someone else drive so you could focus on your daughter. Seems like very good parenting to me, with your priorities where they need to be.
(((hugs)))
Sarah
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Um mel...that just sounded like you handling a difficult situation with good sense and caring. Sorry your daughter got hurt but I actually impressed by you. It was also smart to take the cab...
I was thinking about the rolling papers thing while doing a lecture - the way it seemed to HELP you focus better - when I'm doing some things I notice myself wandering off from it because a part of me feels like I SHOULD be doing MORE. Maybe the brain can settle down and listen/learn/retain because that other part isn't nagging that you should be up doing something more productive. Might be a reason to consider doing the job - many things have a non-monetary value.
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All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Thanks everyone We're all much better for a good night's sleep. Daughter has gone to school with a note excusing her from P.E. She insisted on going because 7-11 have a special today where you can take in any container you like and fill it with slurpy for $3. So she's taken an enourmous kitchen jug and she and her friends will go and fill themselves with sugar after school. Marvelous...no exercise and a jug full of syrup. Lol. At least it motivated her to go in spite of a sore neck. And won't she be the center of attention with her neck bandaged.
I'm about to go and deliver these pamphlets so wish me luck, on the bright side it is the first BEAUTIFUL sunny day we have seen for a while (winter is over, YAY!!!) and walking around that side of town where I can see the bay wont be torture, really
Love to all and thanks for being here with me
-- Edited by missmeliss on Monday 31st of August 2015 09:23:52 PM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
It sounds like you handled it all in stride! I actually panic easily when it's my own kids, but used to work emergency services and could stay calm all day with other people and am calm at my current job. You're more normal than you think being in this field and I like your perspective on listening to your lecture at the same time. I am so glad you are here! Sending you much love and support on your journey!
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Sorry about the trampoline being out of action and for you and your daughter having such a horrible scare - doesn't it just go to show what really matters in life?
Sounds like you handled it all very well indeed, I'm impressed as well. I hope that the bay looks beautiful today.
Hi Milkwood and BF, good to see u too You know, it really wasn't so terrible. Took me 2.5 hours, not 4, and I could reduce that a lot now that I know the lay of the land, which streets to skip etc. Some don't have letterboxes, just the rear entries for the gigantic houses. It's a lovely area, WOW. I've driven through but never paid attention. It's the other side of the highway to where I live....15 minutes walk away from my house but WOW what a contrast. I think I'd like to live there, there's a place for rent that has a bay view, it's not even THAT expensive....hmm. Anyway it was a pretty nice place to walk around, lots of very impressive old homes, a couple of giant old churches, lots to look at, quirky little private streets and hidden mansions, in all a very pleasant place to walk around on the first day of spring...and lots of folk out in their gardens enjoying the sunshine and doing their spring planting, and people fishing on the waterfront. Made a nice change from walking the streets of cracktown where I live lol. It didn't suck.
And here's where it becomes an al-anon issue really because it suits me; if i spend the rolling time listening to lectures and the walking time walking the dog and enjoying getting some exercise then it's worth doing. BUT I was lied to and, the pay is just freaking criminally low so on principal I should not do it again...why cut off my nose to prove a point to my face?
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Great pictures Ms.M It certainly sounds as as if your processed the situation in a healthy fashion and made a good decision going forward. Love how you used your time in the process. Recovery looks fantastic on you.
So glad you had such a lovely day to do your distribution and sounds like it was
an adventure that may have opened some doors and new idea's as well!! Just
love the pictures MissM, thank you for sharing them!!
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. Please just keep showing up 
Recovery looks fantastic on you.