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Hi all-My 92 year old mom was placed in a nursing home while her companion, 72, was in the hospital trying to have his foot saved. He is a rageful, diabetic, active alcoholic, and we could not tell him what was happening with my mom or we would have needed police intervention. Once we got my mom settled, my brother told this A she would not be returning home. He has already had his big toe amputated, and still needs more of a second toe removed. My brother said he sobbed for about 20 min. I had to interact with him on Sunday as there is much to do at my mom's house. He appears to be a broken man. He is weepy and terribly depressed. He has lost his companion, is losing body parts, and in the near future, he will have to leave his home for the last 20 years. (Thank God they never married.) I must say I sincerely feel sorry for him. I was able to speak to him with some empathy instead of my usual feeling of disgust for him. I surprised myself, but I think it's due to my work in recovery. Lyne
I'm sure it has lyne I know alanon and open aa meetings have helped me a great deal in seeing the person under the disease. Hugs prayers to you and your family.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Oh Lyne - so sorry for what you are going through. I am glad you are seeing the results of your program work. I am certain at some level, he too is very grateful for your presence and/or support. Hang in there and keep taking care of you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Lyne, I too am sorry to hear this sad news and also happy that you are able to use the tools of the program to have compassion and empathy for these two family members at this difficult time. {{HUGS}}
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