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Hi everyone, today I am really kicking myself in the butt! Somehow, someway I apparently had a debt to a company that I guess I forgot about, which is strange, this company took collection action and went to court and got a judgement and today the first email of the day at my work was from payroll showing a garnishment. I was so upset, I did try to contact the group suing, I was given 10 other people to call, finally got ahold of who now owns the debt, they won't help figure out anything because we went to court? Somehow or another I have missed the boat on the whole thing. I may owe the debt, I may not. I have no recollection of being served a court date nothing, but I guess I signed the paper sometime in May.
I don't know I was really mad at myself for not being responsible, not remembering, not being aware and just a whole lot more. I was worried to tell my husband, that it would rattle him somehow, but then after taking a long deep breath, drying the tears, talking to HP, reading, browsing here I got settled down. Realized that no matter what I can't stop the garnishment, I can't control this outcome right now, I can look further into the matter, ask for proof of things, and if I don't owe this I can take the right action to get refunded which may be hopeful thinking but after I just stopped myself from going of the deep end, settled down and stop thinking the world was coming to an end, I realized that everything will be ok. Yes it will be hard for a few months, but I can still pay what I need to, buy soSlome time to research and just take this one day at a time.
Slogans helped me a whole bunch today. This too shall pass, take it easy, and many more. I am really grateful for this group and Al-anon.
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Linda
Don't worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will have it's own worries
Linda, I am so sorry that this is happening to you!! You have the right attitude and should be so proud that you are thinking clearly by using the tools of A-Anon and relying on your HP. You are so right, with that attitude everything will turn out okay!! {{HUGS}}
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Thanks Debbie, honestly I think what kills me is that I somehow didn't catch this and take care of it, how did I miss it, and if I don't stop beating on myself it will spiral out of control. I can be so delusional at times it's nuts....I pretty much talked myself into being homeless and hungry by the end of today....silly me
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Linda
Don't worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will have it's own worries
So sorry for you - and so happy to hear how you applied the program tools and were able to take action. I can so relate to how you feel - we try so hard to carry it all and manage it all and when a ball drops....it's just for me a sign of where I failed (humanism)....
You are fine, it will be fine and it happens to the best of us. I agree with Debb - try to let it go and just move on. Nothing more you can do about it for this moment!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
