The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My goal is to stop looking for praise, reassurance, compassion, love and support from someone who is incapable of giving it. I have to learn to accept that he CAN'T do it, it's not that he doesn't want to, or I don't deserve it...he just can't. My love for myself and the love of other family and friends is plenty to carry me through. I have been feeling down lately, looking for my AH to pick me up and waiting for that to happen has made me feel lower. Time to take control over this! Have a great day everyone.
Hugs CoopsMom .. Standing in my own truth reminds me I don't need anyone to validate me except me. I have to be gentle with myself and know I'm doing the next right thing .. my HP is awesome and that's what I look to for Him to fill me up and seal my cracks with gold so I am even more precious than before. I really had to stop looking for outside validation and it doesn't mean it doesn't feel good when someone notices something good about what I'm doing .. the reality is that expecting others to fill my worth is just setting me up for a big disappointment.
Big hugs, keep coming back and yes .. looking for bread at the hardware store just doesn't workout for me.
S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I think we forget that we are worthy - worthy of love and worthy of success. When living with this disease, it's so easy to forget that we aren't the issue, it's the disease and there is a solution.
I applaud you for realizing that looking inward is where you will find your peace, truth and joy. That for me has been one of the best gifts of this program, and since I know now that I can stand on my own, it's made me a better friend, a better mother, a better sister, daughter, wife, etc. It's truly changed every aspect of my world and has been well worth the work involved.
When I get down/sad, I am a huge fan of gratitude and asset lists. My mind can make mountains out of anthills so it's best I not let that kind of thinking fester too long. An asset list + a gratitude list is often just the tool needed to turn my frown upside down!
(((Hugs))) to ya Coopsmom - keep coming back - we are just a post away!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
