The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Seems that many people I work with are UPSET about something today. REALLY UPSET. And upset about policies and procedures that just are the way they are, and must be followed for good reason. Seems that folks are determined to be very upset, regardless of any explanations or updates on progress toward resolution.
So, after fielding what must be my eighteenth call/email with "yelling at Sarah" tone & theme, I paused to reflect on how I was feeling about things. In the past, one such contact would send me racing to my boss, asking for feedback or confirmation about the process. Not so today. (His sabbatical and absence from the office could have something to do with that...)
Actually, I have been working with several other people to resolve issues in a positive way, and I have decided to focus my attention on those situations, and remember those conversations for reflections on my day. Not that I am avoiding dealing with the more negative communications, but I am looking at them in their proper perspective: people are upset, and I happen to be sitting at my desk. They are not upset with me, I just get to hear the frustration, directionless accusations, and illogical demands. It is ok for me to deal with them for what they are: frustration, directionless accusations, and illogical demands. They don't need to dictate my day or destroy my serenity.
Thanks to Alanon for these powerful program tools, at work today.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Yeah!
Yay for realising that everyone's stuff isn't about us and we don't have to take it on our own shoulders.
Also, great to hear from you
It's been a while and i was wondering how you were doing.
I hope you get some relief by coming to this board where today's theme is "hugs and accolades for Sarah"
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Also, I called the internet company who was supposed to install internet at home today. I have been without for a few weeks. Seems there was confusion about my order and remote thermostat. (What? I ordered internet, not remote thermostat. And who wants remote thermostat urgently installed in August in WI anyway? Certainly not an urgent enough need to delay the entire project without calling to clarify the matter...) And, my dad has called and left message at a rate of more than one a hour regarding dinner plans and reservations for this coming Sunday with family members I have not seen or heard from in 15 years. Certainly, this cannot wait until I am off work in ... 17 minutes now.
I have decided to laugh about the absurdity of my entire day, go home, and snuggle puppy noses. Without internet, but with possible dinner plans for this coming Sunday.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Skorpi - I used to refer to those kinds of days and say, "The crazies are restless with the full moon..." cuz that is exactly how it seems!!!
So good to 'see' ya again - peace and continued good thoughts sent your way from my world. So good to see your program in action - yay for you and keep it up!
(((Hugs))) - if I can tell time, you've only about 9 minutes left until you get to call your dad! wink....wink....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
AND on my commute home, the check engine light came on. I couldn't help but laugh.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Skorpi - I know I shouldn't but I LOL'd at your post. It so sounds like my world some days. When 1 thing goes different than desired, I tend to look around - they come in sets of 3 for me!!!
Hope it's a minor thing....hang in there and sorry about that....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
AND... I am at a conference, with my car parked in a parking ramp, and my credit card info was stolen and used in a different state, so the company had the card deactivated for me. Now... Must locate a credit union service center so I can get my card out of the parking ramp at the end of the day... At least I am still laughing, right?
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Staying detached, not sacrificing your serenity for any inconvenience is a powerful lesson to all of us. Thanks for sharing your recovery Skorpi-- It looks and sounds good on you.
Oh Skorpi - that just sounds like no fun at all......I do hope you've made it to the other side by now!
Keep working it girl - it does sound good on you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great Job The insanity is all around at times.