((Mirandac))) Keep being gentle with yourself and remember one day at a time, one moment at a time, situations change and so doour  attitudes. Please keep putting 1 foot in front of the other, using the tools and trusting the process.

Remember the 11th Step-- Pray only for HP's will and the Power to carry it out.

 

 

(((Mirandac))) -

Thank you for posting and for your honesty.

I see you dealing with many changes, and that is stressful. I believe you are on the right path - trying to allow HP to work within you in his time frame. So sorry that you aren't where you want to be, but do believe if you just keep working it, you'll soon find joy and peace.

Change is difficult - even more so when we feel forced into it. Know that we are all here, and I'm sending prayers and positive thoughts your way.

One day, one moment, one minute at a time! Keep the faith!

One Day At A Time Mirandac you are doing great, be mindful of the moment!

(((Mirandac))) Sometimes you have to pick the job with the least amount of stress even if it's less money. I was recommended for a higher position recently. Private office, more money but with everything I have going on at home I felt I just wouldn't be able to learn a new job right now and it wouldn't be fair of me to accept the position if I couldn't give it my all. So I've decided to go back to work next week after 8 weeks medical leave. I will be doing the same work I've been doing for years but I'm a bit nervous to go back. I do think getting back into a routine will be good for me.

We are in the process of selling our home and downsizing to a condo. It's going to be tight for all of us but we just can't afford this house any longer. I'm going farther and farther into debt. We have been here 11 years, our kids grew up here so it's going to be very hard to say goodbye. But like Betty said: one day or even just one moment at a time.

I really hope your mood improves. Exercise helps me tremendously and also taking certain vitamins and herbal remedies I got at the local health food store. They seem to help me concentrate better and have a sort of sense of well-being and they help cut out the racing thoughts. I was prescribed Lexapro for depression but it made me feel like a zombie. Of course check with your doc first. Even just being outside in nature with the sun shining is a mood enhancer for me.

 

 

One other thing that helped(s) me when I need it is to not drag problems along with me.  When I was still active with my alcoholic/addict I drug that problem along with me everywhere even into other negative conditions so I did a thing called compounding.  I didn't give myself freedom to handle just what was in front of me at the time I had to have it all in front of me and therefore confirmed my POWERLESSNESS.  My sponsor even taught me that there was an "off" button on the phone for when my alcoholic/addict would call me during another priority I could just turn the phone off or say "Not now" and hang up.  The rocket science of that was it was the simplest solution....do simple first and less simple next...In between times my HP was adjusting the situation.  Give yourself "struggle appointments with time limits" and don't break the boundaries.   In support (((((hugs))))

Building an entirely new life is scary and daunting. Moving and divorce are 2 of the largest life stressors. Time will help, but get out there and take positive risks.

Me too mirandac - sending love and support. Huge (((Hugs))) too!

 

 

It was very important for me to know me primarily because I had come to understand that where ever I was and who ever I was with it was still the me that needed

the fixing.  I took the dysfunctions with me where ever I went until I got rid of them.  The program use to say "Where ever you go that's where you're at" and I came

to understand which "one" they were talking about.   Struggling means you still have the strength and courage to fight for yourself.   Good wishes whatever you do. 

(((((hugs)))))