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Helpangel


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I did it! I told him that he has chose to drink he has chosen to stop therapy and AA meeting but he is not the only one that is "living with his decision". He has lied to his therapist, he has lied to me and everyone else yet want me to say it is ok and now it's not. I told him I need three months to make sure both of us can stand on our two feet. At first he flipped out and then he came around to it. Not sure it is going to work but I am trying to pay of a credit card and renovate the basement and I can rent it out and make it on my own. The 3 months is if we can stand it that long but I am thinking August 31st. I can see it will be a race to see how it works out but I mean what I said and he knows it he has to move out for at least a year and find out what is important to him. I need a least a year to heal from this. My expectation? It gets his butt out the door without all the emotion then just ending it but I will if I have too. I have just realized that the blinds are all gone and this relationship is not healthy and normal. I can't wait till August 31st! Thank u everyone for the advice and patience with me.

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Debb


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Helpangel, you are doing what you have to do for you.  You are attending Al-Anon

meetings right?  You will get the support you need at this time and the

benefit of the steps, meditations, prayers and slogans.  One day at a time

Helpangel, look to your HP for loving guidance and support.  Keep coming

back to talk with us.  



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Prayers and positive thoughts for successful outcome.

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Iamhere


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(((Hugs))), Prayers and positive thoughts from my small piece of the world too.

I applaud your strength to make a plan and move towards it. Stay close to your program and program friends - rely on them for support when you need it.

We are also here - just a post away!


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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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