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beacheemom


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Good morning all! Last night I tried something a little different w AH. He was buzzing and wasn't in his hyper mood with it but rather seemed a little frustrated. Not alot but just seemed like if he would've drank more b4 going to bed that he would've been in one of those condescending tone drunks. So everytime he would be on me about something last night, I never got defensive w him. He was looking for some shorts and I could tell getting irritated so I very kindly asked if he'd looked in the closet besides only the drawers. Then even offered to help. With dinner, he took the lid off the pan and just said it was not what he was expecting w a look on his face. My reply was simply, " it's really good!" There were other instances but I am just saying I think I kind of "get it now a little better. I detached last night. I didn't let him get to me in a negative way for the first time ever. Felt good!!!!

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Great job beacheemom - holding onto your own peace and attitude is a wonderful feeling.

Keep test the program tools you've gained and you'll see better and better outcomes. Add meetings, sponsor, steps, etc. and ... watch out - the best is yet to come!

Make it a great day and thanks for sharing your success!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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Good Job. The tools and principles do work Keep on keeping on



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Does feel good to detach from the chaos!!! Congratulations!!  

Of all the lessons I have learned, detaching from the chaos was

the best one, definitely safed my sanity big time!  {{HUGS}}



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Okay that worked!!!  Great!!! and the willingness to continue practicing it will have it work even better....for you.  Thanks for the share.    ((((hugs)))) smile



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beacheemom


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I can't view any replies to my post!

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hotrod


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Thye are all there what is the problem? can you view other postings ?

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Iamhere


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I can see them as well.....should we try a PM Betty? See if he/she can see that?

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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