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Don't know when I'll be back again .. LOL .. I wish. I know when I will be back. The kids are staying with my mom for 5 weeks total. I will be there for a week. I'm very nervous because she's very needy and I worry about the kids. Sooo grateful for program as well as a warped sense of humor. It will be a good thing is my daughter says mom .. stop worrying about what might happen and just relax .. it's not like you don't have enough other things to worry about and she's right .. moving, court, figuring out what state we want to live in. The issue with my mom is that now I'm hearing about how she needs a wheelchair even my grandma didn't go there until she was in her mid to late 80's and grandma had more health issues than mom has .. sooo it could be a long week for us all
Got to give the big news to the X yesterday and it shocked him and the NW .. you know you would think he would know me well enough to realize that if you try and force me to do anything I turn left when everyone else is going right ... LOL. That part of me has not changed and I don't know that it will any time soon and honestly I like the fact I choose to think outside of the box.
I sent a text about the vacation stuff however I have no idea if he read it or got it and it doesn't matter because I did what I was suppose to do. So as the kids were telling the X and NW about vacation plans there was apparently stunned silence. I guess NW started pressuring my daughter about what school they were going to and she gets very vague with her dad in general about stuff she feels he should be talking to me about .. totally appropriate .. so I just support her how I can when it comes to that issue.
Then I had to laugh because NW blurts out after hearing we were moving and my daughter saying I was uncomfortable with your line of questioning because we really don't know the school district yet. NW says well I didn't know .. lol .. when someone isn't answering a question maybe it's time to move along is what I was thinking. The kids don't need to be grilled end of story and as my X has always told me "what I do is none of your business" he's absolutely right. He actually made it legal in the papers.
He did make a comment about coming out there for a week (where we wind up) or the kids coming back if I feel comfortable and I stopped him again and just said this will be depending on what happens with the atty's the week after. I ended the conversation because NO I'm not comfortable and found out that there is a 1/2 empty bottle of margarita mix in the house which shocking means none of the drinking has stopped. NW stepped in when she saw my daughter spotted it and said it was left over from before .. umm .. they just moved .. LOL .. left over from what? Daughter's respone .. whatever and shook her head.
X looks like CRAP!!!! I guess my daughter made a comment about him getting older and he kind of got freaky about it. I see him getting older and that being more and more of an issue.
Hopefully getting him in front of me he is going to cave I'm almost positive of it .. so that's exactly what needs to happen. Praying this is ALL completely done on 7-7 and my focus can be something else!! Such as leaving woot woot! Very excited about new possibilities and it will be good to be closer location wise to my mom .. I don't think living in California is right for the kids and I. I do think being closer will be a good thing. I just don't want to be wheelchair driving close. I wouldn't be able to breathe.
Anyway, so grateful to be here so
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Thanks for the impressive update Serenity. You certainly have a fantastic attitude and I always appreciate your ability to view your world with humor as well as wisdom and intelligence.
I do hope your vacation goes well and that Mom's health improves.
Your share above for me is so hopeful and filled with extreme growth and acceptance - YAY for you and your program! You are wearing it well girl and I'm sending you positive vibes and huge (((hugs)))...
I have been meditating on the phrase, "The Best is Yet To Come." for the last week +. It popped into my head (sign from HP I think) and so I've been putting it close to the top of my meditation/prayers. Just thought I'd share - cuz that's what I am reading in your writing.
Make it a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
My kids made me lol today I hear so grandma's in a wheelchair no going next to any cliffs .. This is me being very wrong I'm thinking about the grizwald's national vacation and grandma tied to the roof of the car. I'm wrong .. So wrong lol. Yes I have the outfit lol I'll post a new picture. The kids are so excited! Headed to Disneyland on Thursday and Friday .. The kids will be occupied with the pool and hopefully my mom will have more energy. I do need a new job just finding a place to land .. Very excited.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
(((hugs))) - be excited - get more excited and HAVE a great time!!!
I will admit I just LOL'd again over your writings....No cliffs, no roof-top rides, no drag-alongs - A-OK?
So excited truly for all of you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I have to seriously laugh .. If this trip is starting out like this I will so be on the news lol. We are currently sitting at our little airport and as we walked in I counted the bags mentally did a recheck and realized my bag was still at my house upstairs in my bedroom. I had asked my son to grab it it's a large black overnight bag. So when I said can you get my black bag .. Boy did 75% right got my Brown purse and his suitcase leaving the block bag there lol. Now I should have looked there has been more than a little on my plate lol. Anyways I now have a very good story and obviously it was my responsibility ultimately lol. It really was funny!!
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Ha-ha.....boy I agree with Betty - great excuse to get some new things!! Have a blast!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
