The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I find that with each heated episode from AH, which are fewer and fewer as time goes on, that the results I am encountering seem to enlighten both me and AH. For me the enlightenment centers around more understanding and empathy for the disease and with that comes less resentment, not acceptance mind you, but with less resentment there is faster recovery from the chaos. I find that AH seems to have a better understanding of his own diseases as well, he doesn't exude as much resentment or anger either. Al-Anon has helped me in so many ways and it would seem that due to my recovery and detachment with love it is helped AH to see that he can no longer rely on me to blame and justify his drinking, with that he has to look at himself!
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
I love this! I can really relate. I remember the exact incident when I first really applied some program tools and survived it in a new, positive way. I was so grateful (still am) for Al-Anon and it was a relief to be released from the guilt/anxiety that *I* was causing any of it.
Good for you! You are working the program and it works!
-- Edited by sookie on Saturday 16th of May 2015 11:55:26 AM
