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my fiancé is titrating off of methadone. he has become flat and emotionless. he'll ignore me all night. he is extremely focused on a game on his computer. i am not sure if this is the methadone or what is happening. he does not share much about what he is going through unless i ask. he says that he's angry at the world and hates everyone, not including me. he has barely showed me any love for months. he has no sex drive. i am not sure if this is normal or if he doesn't love me anymore. i am willing to be patient with him in this process because i love him and promised to be there for him. i am just having trouble feeling settled with this going on. when i ask him what i should do he says that just being patient is best. again, i am completely unsettled by this situation.
Sucks!!! I know one of the ways if you both are interested is a good family counselor with drug problem experience...VA if he is a vet...or maybe a friend and or associate who is in N/A Narcotics Anonymous. If he doesn't want the help...go get it for yourself in the family groups Al-Anon or Naranon for those affected by someone else's addictions. Keep coming back here and reading and asking. ((((hugs))))
If he has no NA program, it is likely he will cash in the addictive behaviors for other ones. That may happen even with NA. You are seeing replacement addiction behaviors already with the video gaming. He is now getting flooded with more emotions and physical discomfort and the desire is to isolate and retreat into non-reality (video games) and say he hates and cannot tolerate the real world. I can easily say what he needs (a hefty dose of NA, sponsor, steps and maybe an IOP program too). For you, Naranon or Alanon. There is something about you that needs work also and you need support that is unique to naranon/alanon. Promises to "be there" for a drug addict seem noble, but they often wind up sacrificing yourself for another person who cannot and will not offer you the same support.
