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my a had been on the wagon for a few weeks. then his father went away this weekend. i was there with him. he decided we should get some wine. he got two bottles. (used to get 4) and the next day got one. i could not have handled it worse. i didn't say anything, which i know we are supposed to do. but i was stupid enough to have some wine as well. gee, why don't i just go buy it for him, huh? i just miss wine, and miss our sitting around having some and watching movies. neither of us got drunk, but it was really stupid of me. so yet again he thinks he can handle moderation. terrific. i have seen this one before. the bar keeps getting pushed further and further until he is breaking things in public places again. stupid stupid stupid.
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I totally get how you can miss the alcohol use and not abuse. Give yourself a break...u r only human. We all are exactly where we are supposed to be in our recovery.
I did the same thing. Sat in the hot tub with my A and a beer. Nothing better than a clear, Star filled sky, a hot tub and a beer with olives (at least for me). Now I'm angry with myself for doing so. I miss it, but I have resigned to not drink with him anymore. That's what girls weekends are for!
I did the same thing Super Bowl weekend. I drink a few times a year, my A had relapsed the Friday before Super Bowl, the day after Super Bowl I beat myself thinkiing, if I hadn't drank he wouldn't have either. But who am I fooling? He is going to drink whenever he wants, whether I am there or not. I can't control it. As much as I want to, I can't. I want to say I won't drink with him again, but I don't know if that's a true, I miss just hanging out with him and having a couple of drinks and talk.
Exactly. Well its good to know I am not the only one who has done this. I don't think he would have not drank if I hadn't, just kinda feel like a bad influence, you know? But I do miss sipping wine and talking. Boo.
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