The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I had no idea before reading the messages on this board how unoriginal my As are (ex husband and current husband). Wow! It's the same ugly face everywhere, the very same. There's no originality. (It's not even unique that I married two of them.) This realization is a breakthrough for me. It's like alcoholism takes away every aspect of what made all of these As attractive and unique and changes them into diseased robots. (Along the way, it also turned me into a diseased robot. I definitely need to get into recovery!) I am comforted by the idea that joining this online group is a baby step toward an awakening.
Sondee: There are many many similarities between them but there are also similiarities between all of us. When I see myself in others I become more compassionate. I also become aware of what I need to do to take care of me.
It is amazing just how similar the A's in our lives are. Buit more so, it is comforting to me that I am like so many other people here also. We have all done the crazy things that anyone on the outside would not think to do. Made a million phone calls trying to track down the A. Just today I went through the cell phone bill, call by call and analyzed it to death. major slip for me because it sent me back to a way of behaving that I do not like. But today I also shared this at a face to face meeting, admitted it, realized it was crazy thinking, and was gently reminded not to beat myself up, that I can learn and grow.
