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I just wanted to thank you all for your support and encouragement. It has been a grounding force in my life to read your posts and to understand that there is hope and happiness could lie a head for me. I spent my first night away from my "a" i did better than I thought I would. I think a part of me is still enmeshed in this craziness and I anticipate some hard days a head emotionally, my family is very supportive of me right now and is willing to watch the kids a couple of nights during the week so I can get to my F2F meetings. I think the best thing I need right now is to be with people that can look introspectively into themselves and share their experiences of how they prospored from doing the work. Maybe I'll have friends again and allow myself to spend time on me. I feel much better today than I did yesterday.
My "a" and I are getting together alone this evening to talk about finances, child support and visitation. He's not sure where he's going to stay right now, but I'm positive he can't stay with me and the children it is just to emotionally volitile. Thank you again, I am grateful for MIP and hope I can post some miracles of my own soon.
Hugs,
Twinmom~
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"The people who don't mind matter and the people who mind, don't matter". (Dr. Seuss)
i know you will be going throu horrible emotions now and for the next while... but i promise you.... it will get better..there is light at the end of that tunnel.
i have had no contact with my "A" in over 3 weeks... and i feel GREAT!
i have put more effort into me...got my hair highlighted...had long hot baths...reading new novels... applyed for a cabin crew course in college... so i can get a qualification for that soon.. might broaden my horizens somewhat...
im sleeping better and eating healthier...and gettin together with friends more.... and guess what...
2 guys that i used to date before both e-mailed me last week... within a day of each other. i hadnt heard from either in over 2 and 4 yrs respectively... weird but true!
so im back talking to them now on a regular basis..which is good to catch up..at least they are still there for me..
twinmom...i promise you things do get better... im always here for you... remember that.. we are your 2nd family.
(remember..try and get past all the emotional blackmail that ur "A" might put on you...like how its not fair on the kids etc... how could you desert him etc... THE KIDS WILL THRIVE IN A POSITIVE HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT..STREE FREE AND HAPPY... your a great mother...never let anyone tell you otherwise)
