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I get closer and closer to the door. But, it seems to be taking forever before I can go through it. I am impatient... but, I have always been impatient. In order to divorce him I must first sell the business that we own jointly. It is on the market. It is listed with a realtor and also on several business-for-sale web sites. There has not been much interest so far. I figure it will take 1 year to sell based upon other stores that sold in this franchise.
Last night, for the first time, I told him that if he becomes violent again during his drunken rages I will call the police and have him thrown in jail. He locked himself in his room. I went out for dinner and had a nice meal. During dinner I decided that I will never again sit home while he drinks and watches TV. From now on, when I want to go somewhere, I will go without him.
This morning I told him that decision. I have called all of my friends and told them that all invitations to me will be to me alone. I am going to be seeking single friends to do things with. From now on I will pretend I am single and he is just a very bad roommate.
I too spent a long time in the threshold of the door, wanting out sooooo badly. I learned not to rush it, myy HP had a plan. Now that I've been out for 3 months I'm glad I waited. Foe me it was waiting until our son went off to college. It won't be easy whenever you do go, think things through and have a plan.
My A husband and I spent very little time together by the time I left. The only thing we could do together and not fight was grocery shopping. No wonder I put on weight!
Hang in there, it will be worth it. Let go and let God.
I think that if you set the boundaries you will be happier. Remember also, you can up the annie, change the boundaries, add to them, or delete ones you no longer are concerned with. You have alot of power, and choices where you are concerned.
